Could you all spare a thought.....

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Could you all spare a thought.....

Post by Fede »

Dear friends,
I would request that, whatever your practise, and however you do it, that you keep my elderly father in your thoughts.
He is 88.

He has had cancer of the bladder.
He broke his back 4 years ago.
He has an enlarged prostate.
He has osteoporosis.
he has great difficulty walking.
He was on a special diet to relieve the work of his kidneys, due to this cancer.
Now, he is passing blood copiously, with his motions.
So they have changed his diet, yet again....
he has lost a great deal of weight, and is very weak.

They will be conducting further tests at the beginning of May to try to diagnose and establish the precise cause of this bleeding
He is on much medication.

I don't know whether this means he will get better, or he will die.
I am aware of dying being a possibility.
This is what happens to us all.
so I do not necessarily request that you pray for his continued life.

I ask that you consider his discomfort and distress.
And I ask you also to consider my mother (11 years his junior, but now his carer) and that she have the energy and stamina to be able to cope and be comforted.
Life ends.
This I know.
So maybe this is then beginning of the end for him; who can tell.....?
but I wish him relief and serenity. And I wish my mother fortitude and courage.
That's all I ask of you, to join me in this prayer.
"Samsara: The human condition's heartbreaking inability to sustain contentment." Elizabeth Gilbert, 'Eat, Pray, Love'.

Simplify: 17 into 1 WILL go: Mindfulness!

Quieta movere magna merces videbatur. (Sallust, c.86-c.35 BC)
Translation: Just to stir things up seemed a good reward in itself. ;)

I am sooooo happy - How on earth could I be otherwise?! :D


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Hello Fede, :group:

May your father be safe and protected,
May he be happy of heart and mind,
May he live with ease and wellbeing.

May both your mother and father become free from mental and physical pain,
May they have happiness and the conditions for happiness.

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Metta to you and your family.
With metta,
zavk
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May your father
And all who love him
Be at peace.

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Peace.
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Greetings Fede,

May there be as little suffering as possible.

:anjali:

A useful sutta for you from the Buddha... I found it very useful when my beloved grandfather was gravely ill a couple of years ago.

Sn 3.8: Salla Sutta (The Arrow)
http://www.accesstoinsight.org/tipitaka ... .irel.html" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;

Metta,
Retro. :)
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floating_abu wrote:Peace.
Yes
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An aspiration to the Triple Gem for Fede's parents.
(Adapted from The Paritta Chanting)
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Homage to the Blessed One, the Consummate One, the Supremely Enlightened One!

By the protective power of all the Buddhas, May healing, recovery and strength ever be theirs.
By the protective power of all the Dhamma, May healing, recovery and strength ever be theirs.
By the protective power of all the Sangha, May healing, recovery and strength ever be theirs.

By the power of the Buddha, May the ailments be rendered naught.
By the power of the Dhamma, May the ailments be rendered naught.
By the power of the Sangha, May the ailments be rendered naught.

May they be free from suffering.
May they be free from fear.
May they be free from grief.

By the assertion of this aspiration, May they ever be well.
By the assertion of this aspiration, May they be free from illness.
By the assertion of this aspiration, May all blessings be upon them.
By the protective power of all Buddhas, Pacceka Buddhas and all Arahants,
May they be secured with this Protection in every way.

Sadhu! Sadhu! Sadhu!

Namo Amitabha Buddha!
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Post by Fede »

Thank you all for your kind words....
Retro, wonderful reference.
Great to read, and yes, most comforting.

My Buddhist practice is extremely sustaining, and of great solace.
as Bikkhu Samahita says, Friendship is the greatest!

I hope my mother's own Catholic practice does the same for her.

Thank you all....
:namaste:

Edit note:

I will keep you updated on progress.... :heart:
Last edited by Fede on Sun Apr 26, 2009 3:20 pm, edited 1 time in total.
"Samsara: The human condition's heartbreaking inability to sustain contentment." Elizabeth Gilbert, 'Eat, Pray, Love'.

Simplify: 17 into 1 WILL go: Mindfulness!

Quieta movere magna merces videbatur. (Sallust, c.86-c.35 BC)
Translation: Just to stir things up seemed a good reward in itself. ;)

I am sooooo happy - How on earth could I be otherwise?! :D


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May your father be well, safe and at ease.
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May all who suffer, and all who love them, be at ease.

Best wishes to you and your family, Fede. Hang in there.
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Fede, I will think of both of you in my prayers /\
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I hope things improve

Metta to you and your family
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understanding it has the nature of a mirage,
cutting off Māra’s flower-tipped arrows,
one should go beyond the King of Death’s sight.”
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I hope that your father, mother, and you all find peace and strength no matter what arises. :anjali:
Vision is Mind
Mind is Empty
Emptiness is Clear Light
Clear Light is Union
Union is Great Bliss

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Hi Fede

You and your family are in my thoughts.
Metta

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