Yesterday, my wife went to church with our daughter and a "brother in Christ" she invited to our home this week-end.
While at church, my daughter borrowed my wife's iphone and sent me a text message saying that she would like to come with me to where I go on Sundays! That was quite a surprise because I already brought her once to the Vihara and she didn't like it, so I was not bringing her anymore.
Unfortunately, my wife took it quite badly. I think she can't contemplate our daughter being anything else but a fundamentalist christian. She said it quite plainly after coming back from church: she said that I can bring her there if I want to because I am her father, but if she can't bear it, she will leave both our daughter and myself to "our things"! Sad.
Also, we are going through a rough ride these days. To cut a long story short, she revealed to me that she cheated on me about 3 years ago and had sex with a stranger. After disscussion, I then said that I forgive her, but if she does it again that will be the end of our marriage. A few days later, I told her that I am ready to give her my trust again and start afresh, as I don't want to spy her emails, phone log, etc. as she initially suggested. But there is still a lot of tension, and this undercurrent of religious incompatibilities compounds the problem...
Yesterday, for the first time ever I mentioned to her that maybe buddhism has some benefits. Like maybe I have been able to handle the news of her infidelity with as much serenity as possible. She essentially took it badly, saying that I glorify myself, etc. She said she wants to take a week off away from our daughter and myself! Then in the evening she came back crying, saying she is sorry to hurt me. I held her in my arms to reassure her, as I love her and I am unhappy to see her upset, but frankly I am getting fed up of her fundamentalist ways.
That was probably not very skillful of me to mention the benefits of buddhism in connection to the rough ride we are going through, I wanted to show her that Christianity has not a monopoly of goodness, in a situation that touches her directly. But yes, that was probably not skillful. I will not do that again.
In the evening, my daughter asked me to read her one of the buddhist books I bought for her telling the story of the Buddha. It looks like she is getting really interested, and I did nothing special for it, I was the first to be surprised!