YOU CANNOT POST. OUR WEB HOSTING COMPANY DECIDED TO MOVE THE SERVER TO ANOTHER LOCATION. IN THE MEANTIME, YOU CAN VIEW THIS VERSION WHICH DOES NOT ALLOW POSTING AND WILL NOT SAVE ANYTHING YOU DO ONCE THE OTHER SERVER GOES ONLINE.

Help! How to raise a child in an inter-faith marriage? - Page 4 - Dhamma Wheel

Help! How to raise a child in an inter-faith marriage?

A discussion on all aspects of Theravāda Buddhism
User avatar
Sam Vara
Posts: 2127
Joined: Sun Jun 05, 2011 5:42 pm

Re: Help! How to raise a child in an inter-faith marriage?

Postby Sam Vara » Tue May 29, 2012 9:13 am

Puppha's situation is obviously very sad and there are a lot of difficult issues to work through. I haven't the skill to offer any specific advice, but I thought I would just share what happened in my family on Sunday as a way of addressing the underlying theme of children in "mixed" families.

On Sunday, our daughter Mai, who is four this Thursday, attended the local cathedral with her mum as usual. It was Pentecost Sunday which commemorates the descent of the Holy Spirit to those apostles who Jesus left behind. I don't think she understood much of the finer points of theology, but she gets the general message that even when people have gone away, it is not the end of hope. That there is something bigger than our attachment to people which we can meaningfully relate to. And she also made, in the creche, a nice cardboard crown with paper flames which represent the Holy Spirit. That done, the family caught up with me - I had cycled to the local monastery for their Wesak celebrations. Mai turned up as I was circumambulating the Stupa with the monks and the other lay supporters, and so she joined in. Fascinating stuff! Ajahn Sucitto's chanting is quite impressive. I think she liked the idea that baby brother was excluded because he might poke himself in the eye with the incense offering, but mainly she just liked the calmness and solemnity of it all. She stood quietly while I made my offering, and then we all stood in the sunshine around the stupa for the Paritta chanting. I, of course, tried to focus on the Triple Gem, whereas she sometimes tried to stand on one foot, or tried to catch the eye of the friendlier-looking monks so she could smile at them. Later, time for chasing baby brother around the bamboo grove and relishing all our friends telling her how much she has grown.

Thus, Mai learns that there is much that is utterly beyond our present understanding, and that adults do some really odd things. But if you keep an open mind, and join in a bit, and copy the more relaxed and dignified in one's world, then things are nice, and there is not too much to worry about...

User avatar
hanzze_
Posts: 261
Joined: Fri May 25, 2012 4:30 am

Re: Help! How to raise a child in an inter-faith marriage?

Postby hanzze_ » Tue May 29, 2012 9:19 am

Not sad, a great opportunity for a challenge many would not have.

User avatar
Sam Vara
Posts: 2127
Joined: Sun Jun 05, 2011 5:42 pm

Re: Help! How to raise a child in an inter-faith marriage?

Postby Sam Vara » Tue May 29, 2012 9:29 am


User avatar
hanzze_
Posts: 261
Joined: Fri May 25, 2012 4:30 am

Re: Help! How to raise a child in an inter-faith marriage?

Postby hanzze_ » Tue May 29, 2012 9:41 am

Not thoughtless, to much thoughts ()

User avatar
Sam Vara
Posts: 2127
Joined: Sun Jun 05, 2011 5:42 pm

Re: Help! How to raise a child in an inter-faith marriage?

Postby Sam Vara » Tue May 29, 2012 9:52 am


User avatar
hanzze_
Posts: 261
Joined: Fri May 25, 2012 4:30 am

Re: Help! How to raise a child in an inter-faith marriage?

Postby hanzze_ » Tue May 29, 2012 9:58 am


User avatar
puppha
Posts: 160
Joined: Sun Oct 02, 2011 8:56 pm
Location: London, UK

Re: Help! How to raise a child in an inter-faith marriage?

Postby puppha » Tue May 29, 2012 10:47 am


User avatar
puppha
Posts: 160
Joined: Sun Oct 02, 2011 8:56 pm
Location: London, UK

Re: Help! How to raise a child in an inter-faith marriage?

Postby puppha » Tue May 29, 2012 11:12 am


User avatar
hanzze_
Posts: 261
Joined: Fri May 25, 2012 4:30 am

Re: Help! How to raise a child in an inter-faith marriage?

Postby hanzze_ » Tue May 29, 2012 12:21 pm


Reductor
Posts: 1381
Joined: Sat Sep 12, 2009 6:52 am
Location: Alberta, Canada

Re: Help! How to raise a child in an inter-faith marriage?

Postby Reductor » Wed May 30, 2012 6:33 am

Hey puppha,

I hope that things aren't going in that direction.

My own wife often used to use the 'brother' and 'sister' tags for her fellow christians, although she does it far less now-a-days. Some people in our life will always be 'brother' and 'sister', though ('brother' is short for 'brother in the law', she says :shrug: probably means the same as 'brother in christ').

Though lately she's taking a bit of a mystical journey that is probably not in accordance with the usual dogma. Kind of scary, and frustratingly irrational.

Here's hoping she doesn't join a cult and go all jones-town. :lol:

User avatar
puppha
Posts: 160
Joined: Sun Oct 02, 2011 8:56 pm
Location: London, UK

Re: Help! How to raise a child in an inter-faith marriage?

Postby puppha » Wed May 30, 2012 7:57 am


Reductor
Posts: 1381
Joined: Sat Sep 12, 2009 6:52 am
Location: Alberta, Canada

Re: Help! How to raise a child in an inter-faith marriage?

Postby Reductor » Fri Jun 01, 2012 6:58 am


User avatar
puppha
Posts: 160
Joined: Sun Oct 02, 2011 8:56 pm
Location: London, UK

Re: Help! How to raise a child in an inter-faith marriage?

Postby puppha » Fri Jun 01, 2012 10:37 am



Return to “General Theravāda discussion”

Who is online

Users browsing this forum: No registered users and 51 guests

Google Saffron, Theravada Search Engine