Hello Forum Members,
My question today has to do with raising children. In my special case, the child is not mine, but i have in some sense inherited/adopted her as mine.
She is 12 years old now. She was 9 when i came into her life. Obviously before i showed up on the scene, a lot of things/behaviors that have become part of her nature were firmly rooted and nurtured. However, I believe that wise action with child rearing says that we must take an active role in teaching good habits. Kindness, etc.....
I had heard a teaching recently that made the point by saying that a child may see fire and think it is a toy. We cannot let the child run into the fire, for the damage they will obviously experience. In the same way, I think that when a child is displaying unkind, malicious, unloving, anger-filled, and negative emotions/actions, we are to try and help the grow in their understanding and implementation of the opposite action (kindness, compassion, good will, forgiveness).
However, it is very hard to change these negative patterns. Anyone know of some good resources or scriptures that talk about the disciplining of children in dhamma?