pilgrim wrote:What's the point of renunciation again?
Yes, celibacy is never easy. But his erotic adventures as a monk exceeds that of many laypeople. Although technically he did not breach his celibacy, his erotic romps, ( during vassa, I might add) is a private failure and should remain as such. At the most, he could have written about this privately to his brother monks and reflected upon with hiri and otappa, not revealed in a public blog on the Internet and worse, become a subject of praise.
This indiscretion has affected my perception of the sangha, particularly "farang" monks, in a negative manner.
I have had bouts of STRICT celibacy (no touching myself, no masturbation, no porn, no fantasy while half sleeping or awake,no touching, fondling kissing sexing a random girl/girlfriend/prostitute, and surprisingly no wet dreams either because of three rounds of Maha Bandha everyday)...Believe me if one keeps at it for a month or two like this ..it feels like as if a big Ferrari Formula 1 Engine is revving up below the Abdomen...Its then YOU HAVE TO DO SOMETHING to dissipate it, or you may soon lose it through a sexual slip-up...You either work out, or put extra energy into studies or meditate or if you are an adventurous type--go out picking up girls .....,,,but once you lose it, you keep losing it after a every few days for the next several months before you recall back that humongous will-power
But anybody who is in the celibacy game, knows that you will attract more than your fair share of female attention..It's as if women have a bat sense to pic out guys who are trying to hang on to celibacy (IT IS THE TOUGHEST THING IN THE WORLD--Anybody who says otherwise is lying or has no idea what he is talking about).....So every Vishwamitra will have his Menaka who although may have been the most compassionate celestial-nymph ever, was ultimately an obstacle in the spiritual ascendancy
It seems Buddhist monks get lost in the maze of legalities....and celibacy though given a very high place , arguably not the highest place
In Hinduism celibacy is the Pinnacle of All Achievement....So it's seen more as gaining spiritual superpower rather than giving up sex
These two links perhaps have had the most influence on my spiritual life:http://gopal4mission.wordpress.com/2009/04/04/greatly-inspiring-brahmacharya-quotes/http://www.dlshq.org/download/brahmacharya.htm