David N. Snyder wrote:You love your family and everything appears to be fine you just want to get more serious. You can get very serious with your practice and still be a lay person. You can go on retreats for your vacation time from work and you can attend regular temple events as a lay person. And of course you can do daily practice with regular household responsibilities.
As your kids get older and on their own you could re-think the idea of ordaining, but if you are still happily married, you can still continue to get serious as a lay person. After the kids are grown-up you will most likely have more free time even as a lay person, for retreats and deeper practice. If your wife practices with you there is even the possibility of becoming an 8 precept married couple (in your older years) which is very close to being ordained anyway. An 8 precept lay person can still have household duties, handle money and would just refrain from sexual activity, eating beyond noon, singing, dancing, listening to music, entertainment shows. As you progress in the Dhamma, those things tend to lose their allure anyway.
Kim O'Hara wrote:David N. Snyder wrote:As you progress in the Dhamma, those things tend to lose their allure anyway.
As you get older, those things tend to lose their allure anyway, too.
Hickersonia wrote:I'm not looking to make any drastic changes soon. I am content with things; I'm just trying to make sure that I'm moving in the right direction. Or in another way of speaking, I want to make sure that I create the right conditions so as that I might be able to pursue this course later in life. I figure I have obligations in the family and, quite frankly, I'm in no hurry to run from that (nor am I ashamed or depressed about it). I'm happy at home, but I'm reminded occasionally by the Dhammapada that one should be willing to forsake a lesser happiness for a greater, more lasting one.
David N. Snyder wrote:If your wife practices with you there is even the possibility of becoming an 8 precept married couple (in your older years) which is very close to being ordained anyway.
befriend wrote:i thought you had to wait till your kids grew up before you ordained, is that right?
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