I am going through a very difficult time. I feel my relationship with my girlfriend can't survive. I tried to tell her this morning but she wouldn't accept it. I feel like I just want to focus on dhamma and I told her this. I have had mental health issues in the past, and feel like I am going through another such period now. I have an appointment with the doctor this afternoon and he will probably change my medicine. I am desperate to meet a teacher who can help either with the break up, or help me learn to live with her. She depends on me financially, spiritually and emotionally, although she has no interest in spiritual or religious things. She said all she wanted was to be with me. I would be grateful for any advice which may help at this difficult time.
I feel your dilemma.
I was in a similar situation 2 years and 6 months ago.
And I choose to break up with my ex to focus on Dhamma practice.
In all honesty, that was the best decision I ever done in my life.
What most people don’t want to hear is, Dhamma practice requires solitude and seclusion.
Even the most understanding male-female relationship is still hinderance for the practice, let alone the one with NOT so understanding partner.
So I think the best route for you is to break up with her and putting your energy and effort to Dhamma.
And from what I found, one can live well without relationship or sex even in the lay life.
Most people think that is impossible.
Even I thought that I couldn’t live without sex.
But that’s a wrong assumption.
Living without such attachment is much more spacious and wide open for Dhamma practice.
Flame (that has been tormenting us) is getting weaker and weaker and one feels much more ease and delight observing the dying flame.
And instead of finding joy in the flame of charcoal pit, the supreme replacement is filling the void and the replacement’s name is Dhamma.
And regarding your girlfriend, don’t worry because her potential partners are everywhere.
She’ll have a brand new one.
I wish you all the best in Dhamma practice.
Ps: If You plan to have another relationship in the future, make sure find one who does practice Dhamma.
Although I think the solitary life is the best for Dhamma practice, I understand that's not for everybody.
So if you still need one (relationship) then make sure that you find a new partner who are striving for Dhamma practice as much as you are.