Magoo wrote: do have control of my actions and speech and intentions (with the help of mindfulness), demostrated by the fact that I am going to make myself a nice cup of coffee. If I wait for inevitabilty, I dont think I will ever have that coffee I am craving!
Your cofee is inevitable, why? Beacause there are coktail of reasons.
There is no fenomena, no dhamma that have not any reason, all is conditioned by reasons that have effect. If somethink rises withour reason - it's chaos
If you have a choice of your thoughts, why do you don't think only genious thoughts? Why do you must a waiting for one idea? You dont create it, you wait it, you wait a reasons to see this idea rises in your mind... like a moon. I can see the moon, it's shines et show me the way, I can just take the way that the moon enlight, but if the moon is mine? I dont think so. So where is the choice?
Suffering rises when we cant control somethink, when ego try to apropriate the things that he don't have, but he have nothink, so identifying with ego makes rise a suffering. Leting all go on, it's freedom.
When there is ego, there is only dukkha, there is only Samsara
When there is no ego, there is no dukkha, there is Nibbana
It's not the ego who create dhammas
But it's dhammas who create the ego
Ego is the point of our mind where is focusing the experiance of body life
Do the past exist? No
Do the ego exist right now? No
So who makes a choice?
When the one is identifying with the experiance of his body, he devides the world on "me" and "not-me", so to find some security and stability, ego tries to apropriate the things, to make "not-me" - "me", is like a sponge, it's trying to absorbe the water and suffering on this weigh, cant move on The Path.
But when there is no ego, when there is no choice, when there is just accepting of things, when there is no bad or good, just phenomenas who rises and disappears, the mind is like a lotus leaf, the rain's drop slides down, Mara have not any more acces to it...
It's difficult to understand and accept, but is the way that all dhammas are.
PS: Middleway it's just about very luxioury and very ascetic life who don't lead to lieration of suffering. With Mara there is no middle way. Perharps in Mahayana.
If someone likes to have a choice, he likes suffer to.
Mara is hidden there where is suffering. So we have to distroy suffering, distroy ourselves, our ego. It's sounds brutal, but we have no more the time to esitate.
With Metta.