whynotme wrote:Vlcimba wrote:Hormones man. Hormones is the key. You can't get rid of it, but you can take control, and slowly overcome it day by day , the brain is designed to have infinite number of taughts, ideas intentions, you just need to try to make sure every each of it is a good one, it's almost impossible to achieve that, for us laypeople, we don't need to, we just need to try our best. I don't know a lot of Buddhist terms like you all, but I hope this post helped, I am a mahayanist and also study Theravada , but I am a simple man, so I use simple words to express myself:)
Hell, no. I tell you this, at first I don't know that when I get bored I can have sexual desire to escape the reality, but after realize that, I can easily overcome it when I am bored. The unconscious state of the mind is very important, you must read it yourself.
Hormones is important but it is not the key. If hormones is the key then no one can get rid of it, or arahant is just a drug user. Also the master would teach all of his disciples to get a castration to become an arahant, because it will kill sexual desire forever, but he didn't.
Actually hormones is under the control of the brain, or the mind not vice versa. If you fear the brain will pump alot of adrenaline into your body, but the brain must conceive a fear first. If you brain (mind) conceive a woman is ugly then no hormones could rise sexual desire in you about her. In reality it is not as simple as that because the mind and the hardware interact with each other quite fast and they stimulus each other, but the mind is superior to the hardware.
The Buddha emphasis on the mind because he know what is good what is bad. If you think you are better than him then welcome our new master of the dhamma.
Yeah I agree with ya. Self-control is the key then . When i was stopping mastirbation and pprn, I had to remain conscious all day and tell myself not to get too horny. It was tough. But it was worth it. With just abut of perseverance and self control. But it's actually still impossible to completely get rid of lust and sexual feelings, maybe I need to be much more wise to do that, but I don't really care, as a laypeople, we are allowed to have a partner rite