Hanzze wrote:If we look at serval suttas, there are also advices to have some kind of aversion against unwholesome mindstates appearences in one self. If not getting it fixed would lead to search for people who have mastered it and seek an advice. Meditation of corps would be one possibility.
I guess there is nowhere such a hint as "You are doing good so, it is natural..."
I disagree. Aversion has no place in the recollection of the repulsiveness of nutriment, death, body parts or charnel ground.
Aversion, desire... there is no different. From the raw to the fine till both is gone. Just give it a try and another.
The difference being that, in my experience, it is far easier to deal with the dhammas associated with aversion than it is with craving/lust/greed. Then when craving becomes very subtle it is extremely difficult to distinguish from equanimity.
It might be a good idea to start with the aspects lying behind Dana (letting go at the raw) if one is more from a "compassionated" weight. Maybe to involve in such pleasure just if the partner likes to, desires to. It would be a great first step and honest observed many things will come up.
Yes, I agree. Just treat it as another aspect of life and relationships. When it is happening it is something to be observed and experienced but when it is over its over.