Should sex be demonized so much?

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Re: Should sex be demonized so much?

Postby BubbaBuddhist » Thu Sep 20, 2012 2:25 am

I've followed this thread with interest, as I do quite a lot of them. I was particularly interested at the notion that sexual interest/performance drops off with age. My father, at age 65, was living with a 30 year old woman and from what I understand their intimate life was both vigorous and frequent. I'm 52, almost 53 and if there's a willing female handy, I'm more capable now than when I was 30. But the biological clock of the males in my family runs slow; according to my doctor I have a physiological age of 37, and I take very good care of myself. I also really enjoy sex and don't see it as harmful, an object of aversion, or a distraction from anything. Nor do I obsess about it one way or the other. It's one of many things I do that I enjoy, like playing the piano, savoring a cup of strong coffee, reading a good book, playing with my cat, watching a great opera. If sex is a hindrance than so are all of these others. I might as well strip the branches of all the leaves and live a bleak existence.

This one thing however, involves another human being so it involves being compassionate, considerate and empathetic. In other words, making a human-to-human connection, which may be what I missed in this discussion. Most of the conversation in this thread has been about the sexual act, not about what it means when two people come together for the purpose of sexual intercourse.

In my opinion it isn't just about procreation or the release of tension. If it isn't fun, affectionate and friendly it ain't worth the trouble. Even dogs can copulate. In the biggest sense of the word, it's very cold outside, and making love is one way to build a cozy fire against the chill and proclaim "Hey--I'm alive, and isn't it grand?"

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Re: Should sex be demonized so much?

Postby Hanzze » Thu Sep 20, 2012 2:34 am

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Just that! *smile*


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Re: Should sex be demonized so much?

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Re: Should sex be demonized so much?

Postby Hanzze » Thu Sep 20, 2012 2:36 am

Just that! *smile*


BUT! it is important to become a real Buddhist first. Like Punna did: Nate sante baram sokham _()_

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Re: Should sex be demonized so much?

Postby Dan74 » Thu Sep 20, 2012 2:44 am

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Re: Should sex be demonized so much?

Postby Hanzze » Thu Sep 20, 2012 2:52 am

Just that! *smile*


BUT! it is important to become a real Buddhist first. Like Punna did: Nate sante baram sokham _()_

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Re: Should sex be demonized so much?

Postby BubbaBuddhist » Thu Sep 20, 2012 12:28 pm

It just seems to me that you can still walk the path while holding hands with a friendly companion. And occasionally take a detour from the path to sneak off behind the trees for a little giggly fun.

Sometimes I feel like I'm doing Buddhism wrong. I practice yet I still enjoy life. :tongue:

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Re: Should sex be demonized so much?

Postby Hanzze » Thu Sep 20, 2012 1:32 pm

Image does it help?

But better and more secure to remember the noble Sangha to develope right view ( as: no brahmans or contemplatives who, faring rightly & practicing rightly, proclaim this world & the next after having directly known & realized it for themselves, is an aspect of wrong view and not useful to develope the path) and take it as a inspiration that things are possible and have been done by the wise (in the past, present and also in the future).
Just that! *smile*


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Re: Should sex be demonized so much?

Postby BubbaBuddhist » Fri Sep 21, 2012 12:38 am

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Re: Should sex be demonized so much?

Postby Hanzze » Fri Sep 21, 2012 2:02 am

Just that! *smile*


BUT! it is important to become a real Buddhist first. Like Punna did: Nate sante baram sokham _()_

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Re: Should sex be demonized so much?

Postby convivium » Wed Jan 16, 2013 9:50 pm

i didn't realize sex was demonized, even in 'renunciate' buddhism. it's certainly not encouraged (except maybe in certain tantric practices, but that's a different thing altogether). the reason for not encouraging sex is that tanha causes suffering, and sexual desire is probably the deepest form of tanha (if you think you can have sex without desire, then try going without it for a while). i think to say it's not easy to renounce things like sex would be a gross understatement for most people. we take it as a source of release, pleasure, inspiration (however consciously), which leads to suffering (even if we aren't aware of it).
Just keep breathing in and out like this. Don't be interested in anything else. It doesn't matter even if someone is standing on their head with their ass in the air. Don't pay it any attention. Just stay with the in-breath and the out-breath. Concentrate your awareness on the breath. Just keep doing it. http://www.ajahnchah.org/book/Just_Do_It_1_2.php

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Re: Should sex be demonized so much?

Postby manas » Wed Jan 16, 2013 10:21 pm

Then the Blessed One, picking up a tiny bit of dust with the tip of his fingernail, said to the monk, "There isn't even this much form...feeling...
perception...fabrications...consciousness that is constant, lasting, eternal, not subject to change, that will stay just as it is as long as eternity."

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Re: Should sex be demonized so much?

Postby retrofuturist » Wed Jan 16, 2013 10:36 pm

Topic closed at OP's request.

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