BlueLotus wrote:I have this question about compassion. What if you have old parent to look after who is depend on you to do things. Because you want to look him after you cannot ordain or practice a lot of meditation. So I see two things
1) You have compassion and want to look after
2) Because of 1, your spiritual goal is obstructing.
What should someone do in this situation?
Maybe that topic helps you: Ones parents and the first step into Dhamma
Also useful generally is Educating Compassion
. There is no better place to learn gratitude and compassion while taking care of the parents if they are now in need.
Buddha had also given the duties in this case in the The Layperson's Code of Discipline
The duties of a child to his (her) parents
"In five ways, young householder, a child should minister to his parents as the East:
(i) Having supported me I shall support them,
(ii) I shall do their duties,
(iii) I shall keep the family tradition,
(iv) I shall make myself worthy of my inheritance,
(v) furthermore I shall offer alms in honor of my departed relatives.(9)
(9)This is a sacred custom of the Aryans who never forgot the dead. This tradition is still faithfully observed by the Buddhists of Sri Lanka who make ceremonial offerings of alms to the monks on the eighth day, in the third month, and on each anniversary of the demise of the parents. Merit of these good actions is offered to the departed after such ceremony. Moreover after every punna-kamma (good action), a Buddhist never fails to think of his parents and offer merit. Such is the loyalty and the gratitude shown to parents as advised by the Buddha.
Behind this duties there are no.
Maybe in addition: I don't know if you have sibling or not. From a health family view it is the best (a kind of natural law) that the youngest girl (if single) or the youngest boy (also if not single) will watch over (stay with them) the parents as dutie when they are old. So you can also check out you duties and change it eventually with your siblings. There is no need to watch over them if there are others who do or can. In such a case, compassion would be rather attachment or fear that the others would not do.