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Remembering my brother

Postby Ben » Mon Oct 15, 2012 9:20 am

My older brother, Justin, passed away on this day ten years ago on his 45th birthday.
He left behind his wife and three young girls.
To you and your girls, I dedicate my merits.
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Re: Remembering my brother

Postby Khalil Bodhi » Mon Oct 15, 2012 9:28 am

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Re: Remembering my brother

Postby tiltbillings » Mon Oct 15, 2012 9:29 am

Sadness. Ten years is a long time; I hope the sadness has been tempered over these years with fondness and good mermories.
This being is bound to samsara, kamma is his means for going beyond.
SN I, 38.

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Re: Remembering my brother

Postby cooran » Mon Oct 15, 2012 9:35 am

May he have fortunate rebirths and always have contact with the Dhamma. :candle:
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Re: Remembering my brother

Postby plwk » Mon Oct 15, 2012 9:40 am

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Bhikkhus, if you develop and make much this one thing,
it invariably leads to weariness, cessation, appeasement, realization and extinction.
What is it? It is recollecting the Enlightened One.
If this single thing is recollected and made much,
it invariably leads to weariness, cessation, appeasement, realization and extinction.

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Re: Remembering my brother

Postby bodom » Mon Oct 15, 2012 10:28 am

:candle: :heart:

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The heart of the path is SO simple. No need for long explanations. Give up clinging to love and hate, just rest with things as they are. That is all I do in my own practice. Do not try to become anything. Do not make yourself into anything. Do not be a meditator. Do not become enlightened. When you sit, let it be. When you walk, let it be. Grasp at nothing. Resist nothing. Of course, there are dozens of meditation techniques to develop samadhi and many kinds of vipassana. But it all comes back to this - just let it all be. Step over here where it is cool, out of the battle. - Ajahn Chah
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Re: Remembering my brother

Postby Ben » Mon Oct 15, 2012 10:58 am

tiltbillings wrote:Sadness. Ten years is a long time; I hope the sadness has been tempered over these years with fondness and good mermories.


Indeed it has. Metta Bhavana and the sharing of one's merits everyday has helped to transform the grief.
Thanks everyone.
with metta,

Ben
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Re: Remembering my brother

Postby Kim OHara » Mon Oct 15, 2012 11:45 am

:candle:

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Re: Remembering my brother

Postby yawares » Mon Oct 15, 2012 5:29 pm

Ben wrote:My older brother, Justin, passed away on this day ten years ago on his 45th birthday.
He left behind his wife and three young girls.
To you and your girls, I dedicate my merits.
:candle:


Dear Ben,
I wish your older brother, Justin, be reborn into the Tavatimsa Deva World...so close to Sakka 'the king of devas/devis. :heart: :anjali:
And I think he'll always watch over his wife/children:

I'll be there : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oRiHOtjGQ08

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Re: Remembering my brother

Postby mikenz66 » Mon Oct 15, 2012 6:24 pm

:candle:

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Re: Remembering my brother

Postby David N. Snyder » Mon Oct 15, 2012 8:32 pm

yawares wrote:I wish your older brother, Justin, be reborn into the Tavatimsa Deva World...so close to Sakka 'the king of devas/devis. :heart: :anjali:


:thumbsup: Or at Tusita heaven to hear Metteyya teach the Dhamma.

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Re: Remembering my brother

Postby retrofuturist » Mon Oct 15, 2012 9:47 pm

:candle:
If you have asked me of the origination of unease, then I shall explain it to you in accordance with my understanding:
Whatever various forms of unease there are in the world, They originate founded in encumbering accumulation. (Pārāyanavagga)


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One who is such, calmed and ever mindful, He has no sorrows! -- Udana IV, 7


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Re: Remembering my brother

Postby Cittasanto » Mon Oct 15, 2012 9:50 pm

:candle:
This offering maybe right, or wrong, but it is one, the other, both, or neither!
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Re: Remembering my brother

Postby sattva » Mon Oct 15, 2012 10:35 pm

sending metta
Wishing: In gladness and in safety,
May all beings be at ease.
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Re: Remembering my brother

Postby Billymac29 » Tue Oct 16, 2012 1:19 am

:candle:

With metta
"whatever one frequently thinks and ponders upon will be the inclination of one's mind"
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Re: Remembering my brother

Postby Ben » Tue Oct 16, 2012 1:27 am

Thanks everyone.
I thought you might be interested to read his obituary.
It has been good to read it again all these years later.
kind regards,

Ben


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Re: Remembering my brother

Postby Dan74 » Tue Oct 16, 2012 1:45 am

What a loss it must've been to all who knew him, especially family and friends...

May you all be well.
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Re: Remembering my brother

Postby SamKR » Tue Oct 16, 2012 2:38 am

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Re: Remembering my brother

Postby Reductor » Tue Oct 16, 2012 5:37 am

:candle:
Michael

The thoughts I've expressed in the above post are carefully considered and offered in good faith.

And friendliness towards the world is happiness for him who is forbearing with living beings. -- Ud. 2:1
To his own ruin the fool gains knowledge, for it cleaves his head and destroys his innate goodness. -- Dhp 72

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Re: Remembering my brother

Postby yawares » Sat Oct 20, 2012 6:04 pm

David N. Snyder wrote:
yawares wrote:I wish your older brother, Justin, be reborn into the Tavatimsa Deva World...so close to Sakka 'the king of devas/devis. :heart: :anjali:


:thumbsup: Or at Tusita heaven to hear Metteyya teach the Dhamma.

:candle:

Dear David,
Oh..I pray that Justin may be reborn there too :anjali: ...but I THINK a deva @ Tavatimsa can fly to listen to Metteyya's dhamma in Tusita too???

I :heart: to be @ Tusita heaven MYSELF...But afraid I'll never be a qualified candidate :cry:
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