EmmaMicaela wrote:I have a little girl. If I am to be dispassionate
EmmaMicaela wrote:I need to be engaged
BlackBird wrote:When you get calm enough you will see that a Mother's love for her daughter, and clinging/attachment - Are two very different things.
EmmaMicaela wrote:I have a little girl. If I am to be dispassionate, how can I be a proper caregiver to my daughter who I love ( which is clinging to , suffering.)
I need to be engaged
Is there a way?
To support mother and father, to cherish wife and children, and to be engaged in peaceful occupation — this is the greatest blessing.
Ven. Pesala wrote:The Buddha encouraged people to fulfil their duties to all one’s family members, but he did not urge people to indulge in affection. Since he said, “From affection springs grief, from affection springs fear” how could he have urged people to increase their grief and fear? ... What the Buddha means here, is that one should provide and care for one’s family members with loving-kindness, compassion, sympathetic-joy, and equanimity. He does not mean that one should indulge in affection, lust, and attachment.
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