How to tell a friend it is bad to kill chickens?

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How to tell a friend it is bad to kill chickens?

Postby hermitwin » Sat Jan 19, 2013 4:56 am

I have a friend who kills n sells chickens for a living.
After a long consideration, i have decided to tell him
it is bad to kill chickens.
I hope you can all give me some suggestions on how to talk
to him.
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Re: How to tell a friend it is bad to kill chickens?

Postby Ben » Sat Jan 19, 2013 5:21 am

Be careful, as your conversation may precipitate the end of your friendship.
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Re: How to tell a friend it is bad to kill chickens?

Postby Mawkish1983 » Sat Jan 19, 2013 5:34 am

Why have you decided to tell him?
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Re: How to tell a friend it is bad to kill chickens?

Postby cooran » Sat Jan 19, 2013 5:59 am

Hello hermitwin,

Unless your friend has asked your opinion, or has asked what the Buddha's teachings are on killing other beings - it may be better to reconsider your intention. We influence others far more by example than by criticism.

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Re: How to tell a friend it is bad to kill chickens?

Postby mettafuture » Sat Jan 19, 2013 9:57 am

Everything Chris just said.
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Re: How to tell a friend it is bad to kill chickens?

Postby tiltbillings » Sat Jan 19, 2013 9:58 am

Best of intentions do not always lead to best course of action.
This being is bound to samsara, kamma is his means for going beyond.
SN I, 38.

Ar scáth a chéile a mhaireas na daoine.
People live in one another’s shelter.

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Re: How to tell a friend it is bad to kill chickens?

Postby SDC » Sat Jan 19, 2013 1:33 pm

What everyone just said.

Be careful how you approach this. May come off more self righteous than anything else. In my experience, if you want to help influence someone you have to help them understand, and you need to be willing to put in a lot of time with this person instead of delivering the blow all at once. Don't get me wrong, it may work, but I doubt it.

Does this friend know about your beliefs? Instead of telling him he is wrong, maybe start by asking him what he thinks about his work. Ask if he likes his job. Always keep in mind that we are all along different points on this path. Perhaps your good friendship over the years will be enough of a positive influence that he will decide to stop his job on his own.
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