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chataranga
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metta meditation

Postby chataranga » Wed Mar 20, 2013 4:08 pm

Greetings folks,
I've a question on metta meditation. On another post (can't remember which one) someone wrote that metta should not be sent to one of the opposite sex. I do "blessings to..." meditations and metta meditations each day and do these for people of both sexes as well as "all beings everywhere". I would like to know which sutta(s) I can find some information on this or any other references that may be useful. Thank you and blessings to you and yours.

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Re: metta meditation

Postby Feathers » Wed Mar 20, 2013 4:25 pm

This is the guide I follow:

I gotta admit, I don't limit it to my own sex . . .
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Re: metta meditation

Postby LonesomeYogurt » Wed Mar 20, 2013 8:07 pm

I believe the Visuddhimagga is the first text to suggest the same-sex rule, but it only applies when you're doing the specific self>friend>indifferent>enemy path. If you're sending metta to the entire world, or to sizes or types of beings, it's totally appropriate to send it towards the opposite sex. It's just important to keep your metta during the "friend" and "indifferent" stage (and "enemy" I guess) to someone you aren't sexually attracted to.
Gain and loss, status and disgrace,
censure and praise, pleasure and pain:
these conditions among human beings are inconstant,
impermanent, subject to change.

Knowing this, the wise person, mindful,
ponders these changing conditions.
Desirable things don’t charm the mind,
undesirable ones bring no resistance.

His welcoming and rebelling are scattered,
gone to their end,
do not exist.
- Lokavipatti Sutta


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Re: metta meditation

Postby daverupa » Wed Mar 20, 2013 8:14 pm

Radiate metta in all directions, but I would recommend not imagining things while doing it. Watch what happens when it's easy to radiate, and when it's not, and when it dissipates, and when it arises. Do it alone, do it in crowded places.

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Re: metta meditation

Postby polarbear101 » Wed Mar 20, 2013 9:20 pm

"I don't envision a single thing that, when developed & cultivated, leads to such great benefit as the mind. The mind, when developed & cultivated, leads to great benefit."

"I don't envision a single thing that, when undeveloped & uncultivated, brings about such suffering & stress as the mind. The mind, when undeveloped & uncultivated, brings about suffering & stress."

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Re: metta meditation

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Re: metta meditation

Postby Feathers » Thu Mar 21, 2013 8:22 am

Daverupa, could you point me in the direction of the relevant texts? :smile:
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Re: metta meditation

Postby Aloka » Thu Mar 21, 2013 9:02 am

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There's a 5 minute Metta instruction video from Ajahn Jayasaro for anyone who's interested...


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Re: metta meditation

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Re: metta meditation

Postby Mojo » Thu Mar 21, 2013 3:40 pm

Sending metta to women that I've found to be difficult to work with has been very helpful to my ability to maintain steady income and I've never become interested in nailing any of the them afterward.

I've also sent metta to all of my female family members. Again, no problem...

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Re: metta meditation

Postby Kamran » Thu Mar 21, 2013 4:52 pm

Ajahn Jaysaro mentions at the end of the above video another way of doing metta that Analayo also talks about and that it is: Take the feeling itself as the object, perhaps making it rise by thinking of a kitten or a loved one, and without using discursive thought and without spreading to particular individuals allow the feeling to grow. This is noted as a powerful method by both jaysaro and analayo.
"Silence gives answers"

Jalal ad-Din Muhammad Rumi

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Re: metta meditation

Postby Feathers » Thu Mar 21, 2013 5:50 pm

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Re: metta meditation

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Re: metta meditation

Postby chataranga » Fri Mar 22, 2013 2:15 pm

Thank you to all for taking the time to give some input and helping me to understand metta a bit better. Blessings to all.

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