What happens to ex-monks?

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What happens to ex-monks?

Postby householder » Sun Mar 31, 2013 5:33 pm

Hi all,

Moving towards ordination again. The mind is resisting for stupid reasons, but curiosity got the better of me on one particular matter, which I'm not sure has been touched on here before:

What happens to Western monks who disrobe, whether in Asia or in the West?

Do they pick up their old life where they left off?
Do they start anew?
Do they move to a different life of service?

I'd be curious to hear from people who are, or know of, former monks and how they retransitioned into lay life, what they did for a living, how they approached their suspended relationships or formed new ones etc?

Metta,

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Re: What happens to ex-monks?

Postby Goofaholix » Sun Mar 31, 2013 6:59 pm

There have been several ex monks living around here over the past few years.

Earning a living can be a problem, especially if they've been a monk for a long time as it doesn't really do much for your cv.

Some are teaching meditation, some trying to earn a living doing so, others finding what work they have the skills to do handyman work etc.

Most have relationships.
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Re: What happens to ex-monks?

Postby James the Giant » Mon Apr 01, 2013 4:04 am

I know four western ex-monks. All three adapted back to lay life, and all three are still very involved in the dhamma, and visit the monastery fairly often.
One runs his own successful landscaping/gardening business.
One is an investment portfolio manager... or something like that. Big business, big money.
One is a school-teacher who rides a really nice motorcycle.
And the fourth is currently travelling around trying to find a monastery he likes so he can re-ordain.
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Re: What happens to ex-monks?

Postby pilgrim » Wed Apr 03, 2013 12:16 pm

They get together here.
https://www.facebook.com/groups/3764416 ... ts&fref=ts

An ex-monk runs this interesting retreat centre
http://www.fourwindslao.com/
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