Sadge wrote:I've been sober for 6 weeks. Don't think I've ever been sober that long since I was 16, 13 if you count nicotine (28 now). It's weird! Very weird. I come from English binge drinking culture and was into the rave scene for many years, I didn't think smoking weed and taking benzos was really drug taking :-\ This new life is weird. That's all I have to say.
Firstly, well done on your achievement of 6 weeks of sobriety.
This is something to feel good about, to take satisfaction in. Now, try to steady & maintain it, so it can continue into the future.
Regarding that perception of 'weirdness', that's the label your mind is putting on it today.
But sometime in the future, it might put a different
label on the experience. You might perceive this new state as 'clarity' or 'increased peace of mind'. Now this is not to judge your current reaction; indeed I can relate to a 'coming down' effect, where after a period of taking a particular intoxicant, if one suddenly stops, one can feel a bit strange for a while. This will pass.
Remember that not only your mind, but your body also would still be doing some 'house cleaning' at present. When we actually stop putting a particular toxin into the body, the body shifts from coping,
mode. This period can be a little uncomfortable, but there are definitely brighter times ahead, don't worry.
Others here might be able to offer more specific advice, I actually never did intoxicants for years at at time, it was more for a few months here and there; however I still can attest to an uncomfortable stage of detox. That's pretty universal, differing only by degree, afaik.
Long-term, to stay clear of them, you have to find ways to feel good without them, and by 'feel good' I refer to the kinds of things that relieve the monotony of mundane existence for a while. Things like exercise, certain endorphin-stimulating natural foods, and even laughter and friendship (though you might need to watch in what situations you look for that now), can take us out of the ordinary, and give us a natural 'high' that is healthy and produced by our own
body, not by any external agent. And finally, meditation, to whatever extent you can cultivate it, will begin to give your mind more and more clarity, to the point that one day, the temptation to indulge will not even arise anymore - because you will then perceive intoxicants as leading to stress and suffering,
and will naturally wish to avoid them.
Keep up the good work,