So far I've fixed my eyes on places like Wat Pah Nanachat in Thailand and Na Uyana in Sri Lanka, but the more I research online the more confused I get about all the little details and differences in levels of strictness and visas etc. etc.
vagrancy wrote:On the other hand, right now I'm having serious drama with my parents. My father stopped communicating with me, my mother is very uspet but alseast she gave me the opportunity to expalin what this is about. Any advice on this ?
vagrancy wrote:Hi Reflection
My approach is not as rushed as my writing style may seem. I've thought about going forth for a year now and in my heart I feel ready. I have already taken serious steps towards this goal and reconsidering is out of the question for me at this stage. Right now I really need some opinions about actual places where I could persue my ordination, not discouragement from going forth. Thank you for your opinion !
binocular wrote:vagrancy wrote:On the other hand, right now I'm having serious drama with my parents. My father stopped communicating with me, my mother is very uspet but alseast she gave me the opportunity to expalin what this is about. Any advice on this ?
On principle, one cannot ordain if there is opposition from one's family.
kilanta wrote:Except maybe by threatening to burn the monastery down unless one is ordained. I've seen this has been mentioned in various other threads about ordaining as well (wouldn't mind someone who's more knowledgeable to point out if this really is mentioned in the rules).
[Threatening behaviour] Someone who has quarrelled with his parents
comes demanding to be ordained. On being told to come back after he
has consulted his parents, he replies, ‘I will not leave unless you ordain
me. I shall set fire to the monastery, I shall attack you with a knife, I shall
harm your relatives or supporters by damaging the hermitage, etc., I
shall jump off a tree and die, I shall join a gang of robbers, I shall emigrate.’
If it is in order to protect life itself, it is permissible to proceed with
his ordination. Now when his parents come and ask, ‘Why have you ordained
our son?’ one should relate the circumstances to them and explain
to them, ‘We ordained him for his own protection – verify this with
your son.’ When someone has climbed up a tree and is threatening to
jump from it, it is only permissible to ordain him once he has released his
hands and feet from the tree.
[Father abandoned family] Suppose the father has deserted his son and
wife making no provision for them, and the mother gives the son to the
monks saying, ‘Ordain him.’ If in response to the question ‘Where is his
father?’ she says, ‘He has deserted us pursuing his own selfish whims,’
then it is permitted to ordain him.
• [Mother abandoned family] Suppose the mother has run off with some
man, while the father hands over [the son] saying, ‘Ordain him.’ The
same principle applies in this case as in the previous one.
[From another region] Also one who requests ordination after going to a
different region should be ordained if he went there after consulting [his
parents]. If not, he should be ordained after a young monk has been sent
to consult his parents. If it is an extremely long way, it is permissible to establish
consent by sending him off with monks even after ordination. In
the Kurundi Vinaya tradition, by contrast, it is stated: ‘If it is far away and
the road is very difficult, it is permissible to proceed with the ordination
after forming the resolution, ‘We shall go and consult them.’’
BlackBird wrote:I've heard good things about Na Uyana.
This might be of use:
http://www.buddhanet.net/pdf_file/Sri-L ... teries.pdf
Stayed at Meetirigala in Sri Lanka myself for a couple of months.
Actually I have decided to go and ask for ordination in either Meetrigala Vanaya or Na Uyana Aranya ! : )
Should I write first, book a ticket, then apply online for a tourist visa and just show up? Would language be a problem? Would I receive sufficient instruction in english and find buddhist literature in english in there ?
Most Ven. U. Dhammajiva Maha Thero primarily teaches Vipassana meditation. However, he is also trained in Samatha or tranquility meditation. He is one of the very few traditional teachers who could guide a student in either pure Vipassana or Samatha meditation according to the inherent characteristics of that student.
http://damsara.org/dhamma-talks-in-engl ... n-english/
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