Should Wives Be Obedient?

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Re: Should Wives Be Obedient?

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tiltbillings wrote:That is response of the fundamentalist, literalist Christian to not taking the Bible as being true in every word that is written in the Bible.
Any Christians who don't take all words of the Bible as true are contradicting their own religion. They believe an omniscient supreme deity inspired their word, meaning every word should be correct.
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Well, there is a prohibition in the Biblical Old Testament against touching pigskin on Sunday. I don't know of any Christian denomination that has a problem with football on Sunday.
Really, some common sense is key. Just IMO, obviously.
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Look. There are rules in the Vinaya for example that the Buddha formulated that clearly do not apply in today's world - There are rules specific for India such as needing x number of monks within the Ganges Valley and only 5 outside of it, when these days, it would be much much harder to find 10 monks inside the Ganges Valley than it would be in another country such as Sri Lanka for example.

The same is true of some of the social things the Buddha discussed, they clearly have no impact upon the Dhamma as a doctrine, so to say that if we start to question them - where does the buck stop? That's what we call a 'slippery slope fallacy'. If we were talking about an actual doctrinal point of the Dhamma, I would feel differently, but we're just talking about some advice the Buddha gave to a householder on how to make his family harmonious. Clearly that is something that is relevant to the culture and the time in which it was spoken, but culture and time changes.
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Re: Should Wives Be Obedient?

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Justsit wrote:Well, there is a prohibition in the Biblical Old Testament against touching pigskin on Sunday. I don't know of any Christian denomination that has a problem with football on Sunday.
Really, some common sense is key. Just IMO, obviously.
You clearly are unfamiliar with the Bible. Jesus taught that once he resurrected the old law was to be abolished, meaning the Old Testament was no longer law. And besides the point, just because everyone does something doesn't make it any more right (in this Christian situation).
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BlackBird wrote:Look. There are rules in the Vinaya for example that the Buddha formulated that clearly do not apply in today's world - There are rules specific for India such as needing x number of monks within the Ganges Valley and only 5 outside of it, when these days, it would be much much harder to find 10 monks inside the Ganges Valley than it would be in another country such as Sri Lanka for example.

The same is true of some of the social things the Buddha discussed, they clearly have no impact upon the Dhamma as a doctrine, so to say that if we start to question them - where does the buck stop? That's what we call a 'slippery slope fallacy'. If we were talking about an actual doctrinal point of the Dhamma, I would feel differently, but we're just talking about some advice the Buddha gave to a householder on how to make his family harmonious. Clearly that is something that is relevant to the culture and the time in which it was spoken, but culture and time changes.
But in "The Seven Types of Wives" Buddha says that being one of the four good wives leads to happiness in this world and the next. Buddha also said that "...the woman who is obedient to her husband's will is surely pleasing to the gods, wherever she is reborn".
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BlackBird wrote: The same is true of some of the social things the Buddha discussed, they clearly have no impact upon the Dhamma as a doctrine, so to say that if we start to question them - where does the buck stop? That's what we call a 'slippery slope fallacy'. If we were talking about an actual doctrinal point of the Dhamma, I would feel differently, but we're just talking about some advice the Buddha gave to a householder on how to make his family harmonious. Clearly that is something that is relevant to the culture and the time in which it was spoken, but culture and time changes.
But the problem here is, his conversation to Sujata is not just related to solving a family issue, it is related to Dhamma:
Who is called a Slayer, a Tyrant, or a Thief,
Who is rude, unvirtuous, and disrespectful,
Such kinds of wives will on their death
To hellish worlds of misery depart.

But wives like Mother, Sister, Friend and Handmaid,
Firm in virtue, imbued with long termed self-control,
Such kinds of wives will on their death
To happy destinies depart.
Deeply moved, Sujata replied that from then on she would strive to be a handmaid to her husband. The words of the Enlightened One had shown her how to conduct herself as a wife. Later she became a faithful disciple of the Buddha, to whom she was ever grateful for her salvation.
http://www.accesstoinsight.org/lib/auth ... el334.html

The Buddha's words here seem to be concerned with the long-term benefit of the wife (Sujata) than with the benefit of the family or the husband.
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SamKR wrote: Even if it is a later distortion, being obedient and nice to others is not bad at all from the perspective of Dhamma.
There is a vast difference between "being nice" and "being obedient". People in general should be nice to each other, I see no reason for obedience (except maybe for practical reasons with children and in certain systems e.g. police)

Given that the Buddha famously teaches us to test things for ourselves, I would think we're explicitly permitted by the Buddha to critique the teachings, and if needs be, set them aside as symptomatic of their times and not relevant or helpful today.
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wormhole wrote:
tiltbillings wrote:That is response of the fundamentalist, literalist Christian to not taking the Bible as being true in every word that is written in the Bible.
Any Christians who don't take all words of the Bible as true are contradicting their own religion. They believe an omniscient supreme deity inspired their word, meaning every word should be correct.
Only if they are fundamentalist, literalist type believers, which does not characterize all Christians by a long shot.

Are you saying that every Buddhist must believe everything said in any sutta as being an accurate reflection and true as written reflection of reality?
>> Do you see a man wise [enlightened/ariya] in his own eyes? There is more hope for a fool than for him.<< -- Proverbs 26:12

This being is bound to samsara, kamma is his means for going beyond. -- SN I, 38.

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tiltbillings wrote:
wormhole wrote:
tiltbillings wrote:That is response of the fundamentalist, literalist Christian to not taking the Bible as being true in every word that is written in the Bible.
Any Christians who don't take all words of the Bible as true are contradicting their own religion. They believe an omniscient supreme deity inspired their word, meaning every word should be correct.
Only if they are fundamentalist, literalist type believers, which does not characterize all Christians by a long shot.

Are you saying that every Buddhist must believe everything said in any sutta as being an accurate reflection and true as written reflection of reality?
No. The Buddha taught us to be skeptics and question for ourselves. I was answering your question regarding Christianity, was I not?
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Wow this thread is stupid.

Sorry to all for the negative post but I had to say it.
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Feathers wrote: I see no reason for obedience (except maybe for practical reasons with children and in certain systems e.g. police)
It may all depend upon intentions. Being obedient (or even disobedient) is not bad in itself if the intentions are good. Good intentions lead to good destinations ("Intention is Kamma"). I believe the Buddha was assuming good intentions while talking about being obedient.
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wormhole wrote: No. The Buddha taught us to be skeptics and question for ourselves. I was answering your question regarding Christianity, was I not?
The Buddha did not teach us to be skeptics.
"For a disciple who has conviction in the Teacher's message & lives to penetrate it, what accords with the Dhamma is this:
'The Blessed One is the Teacher, I am a disciple. He is the one who knows, not I." - MN. 70 Kitagiri Sutta

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wormhole wrote:
Justsit wrote:Well, there is a prohibition in the Biblical Old Testament against touching pigskin on Sunday. I don't know of any Christian denomination that has a problem with football on Sunday.
Really, some common sense is key. Just IMO, obviously.
You clearly are unfamiliar with the Bible. Jesus taught that once he resurrected the old law was to be abolished, meaning the Old Testament was no longer law. And besides the point, just because everyone does something doesn't make it any more right (in this Christian situation).
And, footballs are made from cattle skin, not pig skin. Cows and bulls are killed,their skin is stripped off the bones, and it is subjected to chemicals in a large drum to make the skins for footballs. Nasty stuff. People shouldn't touch footballs on Sunday, maybe, as a gesture of repudiation over how we treat our animals in this country. Not sure what Jesus might have to say about that.
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SDC wrote:Wow this thread is stupid.

Sorry to all for the negative post but I had to say it.
It probably is stupid, rather than pooping on the thread, why don't you try to add some insight and intelligence into it.
>> Do you see a man wise [enlightened/ariya] in his own eyes? There is more hope for a fool than for him.<< -- Proverbs 26:12

This being is bound to samsara, kamma is his means for going beyond. -- SN I, 38.

“Of course it is happening inside your head, Harry, but why on earth should that mean that it is not real?” HPatDH p.723
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BuddhaSoup wrote:
wormhole wrote:
Justsit wrote:Well, there is a prohibition in the Biblical Old Testament against touching pigskin on Sunday. I don't know of any Christian denomination that has a problem with football on Sunday.
Really, some common sense is key. Just IMO, obviously.
You clearly are unfamiliar with the Bible. Jesus taught that once he resurrected the old law was to be abolished, meaning the Old Testament was no longer law. And besides the point, just because everyone does something doesn't make it any more right (in this Christian situation).
And, footballs are made from cattle skin, not pig skin. Cows and bulls are killed,their skin is stripped off the bones, and it is subjected to chemicals in a large drum to make the skins for footballs. Nasty stuff. People shouldn't touch footballs on Sunday, maybe, as a gesture of repudiation over how we treat our animals in this country. Not sure what Jesus might have to say about that.
For some reason I'm not concerned with whether or not Christians live their lives according to their own rules.
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