firstly I must admit to not having read this thread in its entirety -just a few pages at the start and a few at the end so my apologies if I have missed some important points or if I am repeating what has already been said.
I agree with the poster who says that the real question here is what do we do when parts of our religon disagree with our modern sensibilities. Surely we question everything - I beleive the Kalama sutta encourages that.
Does an obedient wife/partner move me, her, him or anyone else further on towards liberation? -I'm tempted to add does knowing whether a partner should be obedient help me on the path.?
I love the Pali cannon, I try to read something from it everyday. I believe its as near to the word of the Buddha as I can get but its unlikely to be exact, The chances of misinterpretation(deliberately or other wise), mistakes in copying, translation etc of something that is said to have not been written down for some considerable time after the Buddhas passing is probably quite high