HWP wrote:Hi all
I have frequently encountered rude sales people, who were loud and reluctant to serve (for less than 10 mins). How do you cope? If I reacted by writing a complaint letter, can I say that its their Kamma - they were rude in the first place.
However, I had encountered these people so often (unprovoked) that I wondered if this is some Kammic occurrence.
There was once an old lady in a temple who pointed at a rubbish bin when I asked where I could put the leftover sweets I bought for the temple. Or a woman who smiled at others in the temple but frowned when looked at me; I didn't even know her. There was another case where a woman who promised to give me her name card but ended up giving someone next to me. She just glared at me condescendingly and turned away. There was once during an interview, I politely informed the interviewer about my transferable skills and she just gave a condescending look and asked "what have your peers achieved, what about you?" There were also people who snorted when I smiled at them. So far, only my beloved mother and some of my close friends (since youth or college years) are nice to me.
Is there some type of Kamma that will make people detest you just by looking? This is tiring...Grateful if anyone can provide some advice here.
I have had to deal with this issue for most of my life, but especially since my teens. The frequency of mostly just ordinary people (even random strangers) either being scornful, rude or just obviously disliking of me for nothing I've done to them (in this life, anyway) has almost worn me down sometimes, but somehow I keep enduring.
In my case, I see a kammic connection. My appearance is unusual although according to my ex (who is a strikingly attractive woman) I'm handsome in my own way. But, some people who just see me randomly for the first time will look with a kind of 'oh...there's an odd looking person' look in their eyes, or frown (like you said - I hate that also) or, if they are a group of male teens, make a rude remark or just laugh loudly (personally I don't see what's funny about people who look different - I feel compassion instead. Anyway...)
There is no easy short-cut to 'fixing' things that I know of. As I have related above, people can be rude for the most trivial things, even just someone's physical appearance. Many people are amazingly shallow. Luckily, there are also alot of good people out there, too. Make sure you notice them too, and don't just focus on the negative ones. I'm just begun training myself in that area. Focus more on the good people - and learn to literally ignore the bad. (One day, when we are more spiritually advanced, we might even feel sorry for them. But as long as they are causing pain, just shutting them out might be the safest option).
Maybe there is a kammic connection for you, also. But whether there is or not, you will still have to learn how to deal with it. One thing that came to mind for me lately was, 'I should not care what fools think of me; I should only care about what the wise
think of me.' When a wise person is critical, we should listen. But a fool? No way!
Hope something was of assistance