Hello everyone,
Being mindful of my thoughts I realized that I have a lot of angry thoughts many times a day.
I tend to be quickly upset/irritated by small/stupid things (people walking to slowly in front of me,co-workers making mistakes, etc.). It seems I'm lacking patience.
I almost always keeps these thoughts for me, so basically I'm the only one suffering from it.
When I see irritated thoughts appear, I try to brush them away, or replace them by something positive. Sometimes it works, sometimes it does not.
What I would really like to do is prevent these angry thoughts from arising.
Meditating has been helping a lot because after a sitting my mind is very calm for some time, but it does not last until the end of the day.
What can I do?
Thank you for reading me.
Overcoming anger
Re: Overcoming anger
I hope this helps.
The Five Mental Hindrances and Their Conquest Selected Texts from the Pali Canon and the Commentaries
compiled and translated by Nyanaponika Thera
The Five Mental Hindrances and Their Conquest Selected Texts from the Pali Canon and the Commentaries
compiled and translated by Nyanaponika Thera
“No lists of things to be done. The day providential to itself. The hour. There is no later. This is later. All things of grace and beauty such that one holds them to one's heart have a common provenance in pain. Their birth in grief and ashes.”
- Cormac McCarthy, The Road
Learn this from the waters:
in mountain clefts and chasms,
loud gush the streamlets,
but great rivers flow silently.
- Sutta Nipata 3.725
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- Cormac McCarthy, The Road
Learn this from the waters:
in mountain clefts and chasms,
loud gush the streamlets,
but great rivers flow silently.
- Sutta Nipata 3.725
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Re: Overcoming anger
Yes, that's very comprehensive. Personally I find samatha and metta bhavana to be helpful antidotes.Ben wrote:I hope this helps.
The Five Mental Hindrances and Their Conquest Selected Texts from the Pali Canon and the Commentaries
compiled and translated by Nyanaponika Thera
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Re: Overcoming anger
The Practice of Loving-Kindness (Metta): As Taught by the Buddha in the Pali Canon
http://www.accesstoinsight.org/lib/auth ... el007.html
The Four Sublime States: Contemplations on Love, Compassion, Sympathetic Joy and Equanimity
http://www.accesstoinsight.org/lib/auth ... el006.html
http://www.accesstoinsight.org/lib/auth ... el007.html
The Four Sublime States: Contemplations on Love, Compassion, Sympathetic Joy and Equanimity
http://www.accesstoinsight.org/lib/auth ... el006.html
Liberation is the inevitable fruit of the path and is bound to blossom forth when there is steady and persistent practice. The only requirements for reaching the final goal are two: to start and to continue. If these requirements are met there is no doubt the goal will be attained. This is the Dhamma, the undeviating law.
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Re: Overcoming anger
I think it can be useful to really become familiar with the physical sensations associated with anger. Can you feel it building up/erupting/the aftermath. Also reflect on anger & the results - how it effects you and those around you. Is it something you want to be?
Re: Overcoming anger
Thanks a lot, I am going to study this carefully.
It is a bit off-topic but I would like to say I love this forum. I learnt a lot since I registered here and the good atmosphere makes I am not afraid to ask questions.
So thanks everyone on this forum, and special thanks to the admins and moderators.
Metta to you all!
It is a bit off-topic but I would like to say I love this forum. I learnt a lot since I registered here and the good atmosphere makes I am not afraid to ask questions.
So thanks everyone on this forum, and special thanks to the admins and moderators.
Metta to you all!
Re: Overcoming anger
On the topic of angry thoughts, I love this little section from Ajahn Sumedho (From "Intuitive Awareness").
So recognise that anger is pefectly natural, and don't get angry with yourself for being angry. It's what you do with that anger that counts! The other contributors here have given you some excellent advice. Another good source of advice is Robert Thurman's book on Anger
http://www.amazon.co.uk/Anger-The-Seven ... 0195169751
It is a bit Mahayana in flavour, but I got a lot from it.
Other monks have talked about harbouring literally murderous thoughts about their fellow-monks and nuns.I always had to be special. It had to be Phra
Sumedho’s food and then the rest. That was hard to
deal with — to be a foreigner, a “Phra Farang”, and
then to have a special diet and special privileges.
That was hard for me to impose on the group, as I was
helping to pass out the food, I’d get very possessive.
The vegetable dishes they did have, I felt I had a right
to have a lot of, because the other monks were eating
all the fish, chicken and things like that. I found myself
aiming for the vegetarian dishes first so that I could
pass them out according to my own needs. It brought
up a really childish tendency in me. Then one day
another monk saw me doing this, so he grabbed the
vegetarian dish first and only gave me a little spoonful.
I was so angry when I saw that. I took this fermented
fish sauce, this really strong stuff and when I went past
his bowl, I splattered it all over his food! Fortunately,
we were forbidden to hit each other. This is an
absolute necessity for men — to have rules against
physical violence!
So recognise that anger is pefectly natural, and don't get angry with yourself for being angry. It's what you do with that anger that counts! The other contributors here have given you some excellent advice. Another good source of advice is Robert Thurman's book on Anger
http://www.amazon.co.uk/Anger-The-Seven ... 0195169751
It is a bit Mahayana in flavour, but I got a lot from it.
Re: Overcoming anger
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credit: http://atenlightenment.wordpress.com/20 ... -newcomer/
"...when we are angry
and become conscious of the anger,
we can detect the constant change
in the intensity of this anger.
Eventually, it will fade and disappear.
Whether or not the feeling of anger disappears,
what is important is that
the anger is seen as an object to be observed,
not belonging to us.
There is no “us” in the anger
We can observe other feelings
with this same understanding. .."
This part of article could help us to recognise something about anger.
.
credit: http://atenlightenment.wordpress.com/20 ... -newcomer/
"...when we are angry
and become conscious of the anger,
we can detect the constant change
in the intensity of this anger.
Eventually, it will fade and disappear.
Whether or not the feeling of anger disappears,
what is important is that
the anger is seen as an object to be observed,
not belonging to us.
There is no “us” in the anger
We can observe other feelings
with this same understanding. .."
This part of article could help us to recognise something about anger.
.
Re: Overcoming anger
I wonder Ajisai, if you have been able to discern exactly "what" causes these feelings to arise?
Are these feelings caused by incidents such as difficulty at work or school, or a rude driver on the freeway?
Or are they possibly associated with your very early life and the original reason for negativity, caused
by those incidents, has faded into your past?
If it happens you are able to identify the origin of your difficulty, it may be easier to manage by
addressing the aggravating factors before your anger arises, rather than as.
Good luck friend,
d
"I have seen the truth.
And the truth is called love.
And this is why everyone and everything is perfect."
Are these feelings caused by incidents such as difficulty at work or school, or a rude driver on the freeway?
Or are they possibly associated with your very early life and the original reason for negativity, caused
by those incidents, has faded into your past?
If it happens you are able to identify the origin of your difficulty, it may be easier to manage by
addressing the aggravating factors before your anger arises, rather than as.
Good luck friend,
d
"I have seen the truth.
And the truth is called love.
And this is why everyone and everything is perfect."