This thread's title is a portuguese saying. I've spoken to people and some interpret it as meaning that you know the look on a person's eyes when they are in love with you. My interpretation is different.
I've met at least two other persons who, besides me, by looking at another person's eyes, can tell what are the core emotions on the observed person's mind. Most people find this is self deception but, of all the people I've met and analysed their eyes, I've never been wrong on my observation.
Now, what I want to know is if I'm alone in this. I don't claim that this is something psychic. But it is interesting that it is somewhat uncommon in a random sample. My question goes to a selected sample: buddhists.
I have a follow up questions either way, but let me see if I'm alone first _ and possibly fooling myself.
No, I don't think you are kidding yourself. There's a reason for that saying (as there are for most), and I always thought it was about seeing deeply into someone; I did not see it in a romantic context.
Two things can happen when I look into someone's eyes: one is that I can get an impression which, as you said, gets proven correct over the course of time. (I don't know if I get this quite as deeply as you seem to, though.) Another, though: sometimes I see what I want
to see, or what I expect
to see. Sometimes we humans do that, project qualities onto others, when really that quality we see in them is just our own projection,
and might not actually be correct.
I've found one other thing about looking into someone's eyes, and that is how there is this initial expression there, but that as you keep looking more deeply, you can begin to see other expressions there as well, that you did not see earlier. It's like you get past layers of the persona; first the person might appear confident and strong, but as you look more deeply you begin to see, perhaps, some apprehension. Or someone might appear to be happy, but as you look more deeply, you begin to see an underlying sadness.