I am trying to address a variety of problems that came hand-in-hand with my Buddhist practice, and ironically the third Buddhist precept has given me tonnes of challenges over the past years. When I was a student I had schoolmates that nicknamed me "Erector" synonymous with a big p3nis, it was very upsetting and abusive, yet between kids it was just a name that I grew up with. School-time abuse within the classroom knows little beginning and knows no end imho. Anyways, lately I'm troubled because there is one major problem and the solution is very simple, and the obstacles are so humorous, it comes to a juncture when I keep refraining from blaming, yet Buddhism is the major cause of the problem.
You see in Theravada Buddhism for instance, living simply is important, celibacy too is, veganism too is, and when I dislike any aspect of Theravada I can adjourn next door where the Mahayana is, then again that ain't the problem. The problem is, "HOW ON EARTH AM I SUPPOSED TO GET INTIMATE, WHEN I NEED TO, WITH SO MANY Buddhist and even grandmothers' and mothers' precepts to be adhered?
So this year my mother told me to refrain from attending weddings, or wakes, or birthday bashes. Then her sister i.e. an aunt enforced another rule saying to refrain from bringing a(ny) girl(s) home. And the family forbids me from working, and much lesser from travelling overseas. They keep telling me to find a job, yet when my economy is that globalised, and they create so many obstacles that prevent me from even working within the heartlands, how am I supposed to find work beyond my Small Office Home Office? The humour is of course, the absence of any solid concrete business lead or romantic partner. I agree. Yet what happens here is that you know these are Chinese that I am living with. You might recall how in the ancient China palaces they get ladies to bind their feet until it is so small, they can barely walk. That keeps their dynasty regime in force. Same thing here in Singapore where I'm living in. Without complaints, it's just so terrible, that in order for a bunch of old people to die at a rate of 2 per decade within the extended family, people are taught not to have sex. People are taught not to have money. People like me, a graduate, am told to skip work, and wait for my father to die.
So the irony is even political. My founding father of the country is 90,he complains about low birth rates
, so low that the city state country is one of the lowest in the entire world, comparable with Japan.
On one side it says on a spiritual track "Refrain from sexual misconduct". On the other side, on a sociological track the society including the law of the time says "Please make babies".
Within the household, my old fogies say "Refrain from bringing girls home", "Refrain from working overseas", and the neighbourhood is only 716.1 km2 with a population density of 7,540/km2. I'm feeling very cramped out!
Within the economic side, my country says in 2012 our National Debt is as 100+% of GDP.
I need a place to have sex and a place to work and I don't even have a cubicle I don't even have a bed. I am so stressed out, the only feasible solution is reducing the population density and being lenient on the precepts -- I know when the time comes when people need to leave, people have to leave -- the problem is that procreation i.e. reproduction, and carnality i.e. intimacy are two simple things that should I need a Buddha to teach me how to make babies and have intimacy, then I am suggesting that the religion, the sangha including the entire forum should be the first to be scraped.
I ain't starting a schism, I am just telling the community that I face low birth rates in my society. And when a society brings in religion, politics, education, commerce, and all sorts of funny jokes under the sun to try to address a simple problem that billions of years ago the cavemen had sex without having to worship and extoll the virtues and dhamma of a well-endowed Buddha Tathgatha, all they had were Tyrannosaurus Rexes billions of years ago, and they made babies over billions of years till AD 2013 and I hope we can still carry on this baby making business.
WHAT ON EARTH DID THE BUDDHA SAY ABOUT Tyrannosaurus Rexes and low birth rates in AD 2013 here in Singapore???
There's nothing, i.e. everything if you know Avalokitesvara, to be really happy and / or proud about..