Is It Possible to Be a Lay Theravada Buddhist?

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SarathW
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Re: Is It Possible to Be a Lay Theravada Buddhist?

Postby SarathW » Tue Jul 16, 2013 1:12 am

Hi Mike
What is the definition of a monk?
To call oneself a monk, should he be ordained and follow the 228 rules?
What is the real road block for the lay person for not realising Arahantship?
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Re: Is It Possible to Be a Lay Theravada Buddhist?

Postby m12_shakes » Wed Jan 08, 2014 3:20 pm

Also, further to the OP question (apologies for the slight hijack), but how does one find the "middle path" when relating to attachment ?

I have to work for a living, so on the grand scheme of things, I am personally attached to my job, as I need a house and money live on.

Now how do I find a balance on buying things that are necessary and "over indulging" on luxuries? I believe you get what you pay for, and I believe "you buy cheap, you buy twice". It's a simple rule I use on just about most things, clothes, cars etc.

For example, I am now in the market to replace my current car (it's the same care I've had for a number of years, and it's now giving me issues), however I'm now in a position to buy something far more reliable, i.e. a decent German saloon (sedan for my US buddies), which arguably would be better a better quality car, and less hassle in the long run. Would that be classed as necessary or over indulging?
Same with clothes, I would much rather purchase a decent tailored suit from a reputable London tailor, which would fit me vastly better and last me far longer than any off-the-peg suit would.
Even later on in life when I have children, I would like to send them to private school and give them all the opportunities to reach their educational potential, is that necessary or a luxury?

Where does one draw the line?
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Re: Is It Possible to Be a Lay Theravada Buddhist?

Postby Mkoll » Wed Jan 08, 2014 8:28 pm

Dear m12,

I also agree with the "you get what you pay for" rule. It sounds like your intentions are pure. You aren't buying a nice car or suit to impress people but because they are functional and durable. And who wouldn't want to send their kids to a nice school if they could afford it? I see no reason not to spend your money on quality things for the right reasons.

Where one draws the line is where one draws the line.

That's just one opinion.

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Namo tassa bhagavato arahato samma sambuddhassa
Namo tassa bhagavato arahato samma sambuddhassa

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Re: Is It Possible to Be a Lay Theravada Buddhist?

Postby Babadhari » Wed Jan 08, 2014 8:48 pm

i think mkoll is correct in saying you get what you pay for.

i know one man in India who is to all intensive purposes an 'ascetic' ( eats one meal a day, practices yoga and meditation for 4 hours, wears robes) but has an expensive Japanese watch.

he told me many people ridiculed him for having a fancy watch instead of a cheap local made one. he then points out that his friends have replaced their watches many times in the twenty years that he has had this one watch, so in total he has saved much by the original investment.

you can use the things of this world but its how you view them that causes the attachment :namaste:
Aflame with the fire of passion, the fire of aversion, the fire of delusion.
Aflame, with birth, aging & death, with sorrows, lamentations, pains, distresses, & despairs ......

Seeing thus, the disciple of the Noble One grows disenchanted. SN 35.28

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Re: Is It Possible to Be a Lay Theravada Buddhist?

Postby m12_shakes » Wed Jan 08, 2014 11:11 pm

Thank you both, what you both said does make sense. I hope I can see the proverbial line when it's in front of me.
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m12

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Re: Is It Possible to Be a Lay Theravada Buddhist?

Postby SarathW » Wed Jan 08, 2014 11:28 pm

I do not believe that I always get what I paid for!
Yesterday I bought a three meter USB lead for $16.00 from Two Dollar shop which is sold in major stores for $60.00. Even
if it breaks I can buy it over four times.
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Re: Is It Possible to Be a Lay Theravada Buddhist?

Postby SarathW » Thu Jan 09, 2014 12:18 am

Hi Santa
It seems that your are reading my mind. :)
One of my friends bought a new BMW Roadster. His car breaks down on the road at least twice a year. It cost him a fortune.
My other friend got a Mazda and only does normal services and maintenance.
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Re: Is It Possible to Be a Lay Theravada Buddhist?

Postby manas » Thu Jan 09, 2014 1:35 am

Then the Blessed One, picking up a tiny bit of dust with the tip of his fingernail, said to the monk, "There isn't even this much form...feeling...
perception...fabrications...consciousness that is constant, lasting, eternal, not subject to change, that will stay just as it is as long as eternity."

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Re: Is It Possible to Be a Lay Theravada Buddhist?

Postby m12_shakes » Mon Jan 13, 2014 7:33 pm

Kindest regards,

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