I feel so alone and have no courage to face life

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Anagarika
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Re: I feel so alone and have no courage to face life

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Re: I feel so alone and have no courage to face life

Postby Ben » Sun Aug 11, 2013 12:59 am

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Learn this from the waters:
in mountain clefts and chasms,
loud gush the streamlets,
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Re: I feel so alone and have no courage to face life

Postby Dan74 » Sun Aug 11, 2013 2:03 pm

I really feel for you, between2paths...

Sometimes life can feel very harsh and the world full of people who don't give a s**t about you. It almost goes together - going through a tough time and bumping exclusively into uncaring selfish people. I am not sure what the answer is, it could be that when we are in such frames of mind, we tend to zero in on cruelty and lack of compassion on the outside. I went through a similar period in my life, though probably not as bad as what you are going through. I lost faith there could be anything but loneliness, disappointment and despair. But then things changed. I found what I could only dream of. But this too will pass! That's the one certainty. As Churchill said, when going through hell, keep going!!! Sometimes we need help to do this and to be able to see above it. There is no shame in that and if we look hard enough, the right help can be found.

It ain't easy, but giving up is far far worse.

All the best!!!
_/|\_

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Re: I feel so alone and have no courage to face life

Postby davide-bujalski » Wed Jan 22, 2014 7:59 pm

Hello,
i hope between2paths is still alive,i am sorry for him.I will send a small Metta Meditation for
him tomorrow.
with Metta
:anjali:

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Re: I feel so alone and have no courage to face life

Postby Shaswata_Panja » Wed Jan 29, 2014 2:39 pm

simplest advice...donot see porn or masturbate or fantasize about sex or have sex--total Brahmacharya...the energy will erupt..then slowly work towards meditation..cut down or cut out TV , Radio, Internet,Music, Youtube,Smartphones and even newspapers and magazines..concentrate on your work or life..if you are unemployed start out as a dishwasher..things will start cheering up...do it for the next 12 years...(absolutely no ejaculation/female orgasm ...if done then fast for a day or three) and you will be fairly rich, contented, successful, find your dream girl, get married and have kids and give them education.....that is a good goal to aim for....cut out the very theoretical part of most religions...just concentrate on the bare bones,,,if you are Buddhist..just be contented with the Dhammapada (There are equivalent versions in Chinese and Tibetan Mahyana and Vajrayana scriptures I guess--Tan Poh and Udana Varga)...If you are Hindu concentrate on the Bhagavad Gita (the Radha Krishnan version of both the Dhammapada and Gita are good at 208 pages and 389 pages respectively..Raghavan Iyer also did a good Dhammapada)---if you are Christian concentrate only on the New Testament..if you are Muslim then concentrate on the Quran,,,,,and stay strictly within that one book...its very easy to be distracted by theological questions and spending hours and days and years descending down the rabbit hole at the cost of your normal life goals...But yes most important thing is the Brahmacharya---donot forksake it..absolutely NO---go and join No Fap on reddit and you may log on once every month to read inspiring posts...thats the simplest way you rebuild your life...and yes donot waste too much time reading too many inspiring biographies..as I said that barebones approach is the best..Time is very very limited to make something of life..you may read The Practice of Brahmacharya by Swami Shivananda

(Because of your supreme sexual continence and chastity and celibacy, wet dreams will happen--donot get worked up about them..if you do Mula Bandha and Maha Bandha and Kumbhaka meditation..they will eventually stop or become very rare)


that's it the bare minimum but extremely difficult manual as to how to rebuild Life and yes after marrying have sex only for the purpose of having children..else you should be a celibate even as a householder..you need only a few well timed male orgasms to have a big family


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