Feeling Unsafe
Feeling Unsafe
I am probably 75% sure that this is only in my mind, but I am feeling a lot of fear about my move to a new place this weekend. Part of it may have to do with the fact that I have lived most of my life with other people and now I will be living alone. Add to that the facts that I am 60, with multiple health problems, including some mobility problems. I was once physically quite strong and now I couldn't fight my way out of a paper bag. I am not very happy about the location of the move but have no where else to go right now. I guess what I am feeling is very vulnerable and scared. Besides doing metta, which Buddha recommended for fear, does anyone else know of any other practices, chants, visualizations, etc., that could help me during this transition? My gut is saying run for the hills.
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Hello sattva,
Metta is good, but so are some other ways:
https://www.psychology.org.au/publicati ... nxiety/#s6
With metta,
Chris
Metta is good, but so are some other ways:
https://www.psychology.org.au/publicati ... nxiety/#s6
With metta,
Chris
---The trouble is that you think you have time---
---Worry is the Interest, paid in advance, on a debt you may never owe---
---It's not what happens to you in life that is important ~ it's what you do with it ---
---Worry is the Interest, paid in advance, on a debt you may never owe---
---It's not what happens to you in life that is important ~ it's what you do with it ---
Re: Feeling Unsafe
These Dhamma talks may help... http://www.audiodharma.org/talks/?search=fearsattva wrote:I am probably 75% sure that this is only in my mind, but I am feeling a lot of fear about my move to a new place this weekend. Part of it may have to do with the fact that I have lived most of my life with other people and now I will be living alone. Add to that the facts that I am 60, with multiple health problems, including some mobility problems. I was once physically quite strong and now I couldn't fight my way out of a paper bag. I am not very happy about the location of the move but have no where else to go right now. I guess what I am feeling is very vulnerable and scared. Besides doing metta, which Buddha recommended for fear, does anyone else know of any other practices, chants, visualizations, etc., that could help me during this transition? My gut is saying run for the hills.
"He, the Blessed One, is indeed the Noble Lord, the Perfectly Enlightened One;
He is impeccable in conduct and understanding, the Serene One, the Knower of the Worlds;
He trains perfectly those who wish to be trained; he is Teacher of gods and men; he is Awake and Holy. "
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"The Dhamma is well-expounded by the Blessed One,
Apparent here and now, timeless, encouraging investigation,
Leading to liberation, to be experienced individually by the wise. "
He is impeccable in conduct and understanding, the Serene One, the Knower of the Worlds;
He trains perfectly those who wish to be trained; he is Teacher of gods and men; he is Awake and Holy. "
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"The Dhamma is well-expounded by the Blessed One,
Apparent here and now, timeless, encouraging investigation,
Leading to liberation, to be experienced individually by the wise. "
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Thanks, Chris!cooran wrote:Hello sattva,
Metta is good, but so are some other ways:
https://www.psychology.org.au/publicati ... nxiety/#s6
With metta,
Chris
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Thanks, Kusala, ---what an impressive amount of talks on the subject!Kusala wrote:These Dhamma talks may help... http://www.audiodharma.org/talks/?search=fearsattva wrote:I am probably 75% sure that this is only in my mind, but I am feeling a lot of fear about my move to a new place this weekend. Part of it may have to do with the fact that I have lived most of my life with other people and now I will be living alone. Add to that the facts that I am 60, with multiple health problems, including some mobility problems. I was once physically quite strong and now I couldn't fight my way out of a paper bag. I am not very happy about the location of the move but have no where else to go right now. I guess what I am feeling is very vulnerable and scared. Besides doing metta, which Buddha recommended for fear, does anyone else know of any other practices, chants, visualizations, etc., that could help me during this transition? My gut is saying run for the hills.
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Thanks plwk! If I could take Sammy with me, I would probably feel better
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What is going to happen to Sammy? Is he going to be rehoused?
With metta,
Chris
With metta,
Chris
---The trouble is that you think you have time---
---Worry is the Interest, paid in advance, on a debt you may never owe---
---It's not what happens to you in life that is important ~ it's what you do with it ---
---Worry is the Interest, paid in advance, on a debt you may never owe---
---It's not what happens to you in life that is important ~ it's what you do with it ---
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What a gorgeous Sammy
Yeah, what's going to happen to Sammy?
Yeah, what's going to happen to Sammy?
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Sattva:
Already there are excellent suggestions to you. One thought I had was to practice a meditation on gratitude. A neuroscientist with a Buddhist approach has suggested that we can reset our anxiety and depression "setpoints" by concentrating on what in our life we can be grateful for. Even in difficult circumstances, we can meditate on the fact that we live in a country not at war, we have clean water and food to consume, we have someone in our lives that cares for us, we have a roof over our heads. We meditate on the idea that for millions of people, the above is not true; others exist that suffer from hunger, misery, and homelessness. See if there are threads of hope that you can tease out of your situation.
I also recall that HHDL and Dr. Howard Cutler wrote a book wherein Dr. Cutler advises that we all have contacts with community. He stated that one outside group involvement or hobby can elevate mood, and extend our lives. Two activities or groups can double this life extension. The idea is that along with his treatment of patients for anxiety and depression with therapy and medication, he had them as part of their treatment connect with people, join groups, develop hobbies. He claims that this interaction made a huge difference. Perhaps, as you venture forth to living alone, you can develop skills that will connect you with others, even with mobility issues.
Already there are excellent suggestions to you. One thought I had was to practice a meditation on gratitude. A neuroscientist with a Buddhist approach has suggested that we can reset our anxiety and depression "setpoints" by concentrating on what in our life we can be grateful for. Even in difficult circumstances, we can meditate on the fact that we live in a country not at war, we have clean water and food to consume, we have someone in our lives that cares for us, we have a roof over our heads. We meditate on the idea that for millions of people, the above is not true; others exist that suffer from hunger, misery, and homelessness. See if there are threads of hope that you can tease out of your situation.
I also recall that HHDL and Dr. Howard Cutler wrote a book wherein Dr. Cutler advises that we all have contacts with community. He stated that one outside group involvement or hobby can elevate mood, and extend our lives. Two activities or groups can double this life extension. The idea is that along with his treatment of patients for anxiety and depression with therapy and medication, he had them as part of their treatment connect with people, join groups, develop hobbies. He claims that this interaction made a huge difference. Perhaps, as you venture forth to living alone, you can develop skills that will connect you with others, even with mobility issues.
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Hi sattva,
This short article from Ajahn Amaro "Inviting Fear" might be helpful.
http://www.tricycle.com/practice/inviting-fear
I hope things go well for you.
With metta,
Aloka
This short article from Ajahn Amaro "Inviting Fear" might be helpful.
http://www.tricycle.com/practice/inviting-fear
I hope things go well for you.
With metta,
Aloka
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cooran wrote:Hello sattva,
Metta is good, but so are some other ways:
https://www.psychology.org.au/publicati ... nxiety/#s6
With metta,
Chris
Both these posts helped me, good site Kusala.Kusala wrote:These Dhamma talks may help... http://www.audiodharma.org/talks/?search=fear
"This world completely lacks essence;
It trembles in all directions.
I longed to find myself a place
Unscathed — but I could not see it."
Sn 4.15 PTS: Sn 935-951 "Attadanda Sutta: Arming Oneself"
"You will be required to do wrong no matter where you go... This is the curse at work, the curse that feeds on all life..."
Wilbur Mercer in Do Androids Dream of Electric Sheep?
It trembles in all directions.
I longed to find myself a place
Unscathed — but I could not see it."
Sn 4.15 PTS: Sn 935-951 "Attadanda Sutta: Arming Oneself"
"You will be required to do wrong no matter where you go... This is the curse at work, the curse that feeds on all life..."
Wilbur Mercer in Do Androids Dream of Electric Sheep?
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Sammy is going to be fine! Thanks for asking Chis and plwk. I am the one leaving. He will be staying right here with his mother (my niece), her new husband, and my fairly newly retired sister. Sammy along with Cane gets lots of love and attention which is right up his alley. He is such a friendly, affectionate, and mischievous cat! It would be hard not to love him. My bedroom will hopefully become a nursery before the year has ended, which is why I am leaving. Cane is more standoffish, but we get along okay. There are some people he doesn't take too at all, but he is a pretty cat. They are both really big cats!cooran wrote:What is going to happen to Sammy? Is he going to be rehoused?
With metta,
Chris
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BuddhaSoup wrote:Sattva:
Already there are excellent suggestions to you. One thought I had was to practice a meditation on gratitude. (sattva: An excellent idea and one every so often my teacher reminds me of!) A neuroscientist with a Buddhist approach has suggested that we can reset our anxiety and depression "setpoints" by concentrating on what in our life we can be grateful for. Even in difficult circumstances, we can meditate on the fact that we live in a country not at war, we have clean water and food to consume, we have someone in our lives that cares for us, we have a roof over our heads. We meditate on the idea that for millions of people, the above is not true; others exist that suffer from hunger, misery, and homelessness. See if there are threads of hope that you can tease out of your situation.
I also recall that HHDL and Dr. Howard Cutler wrote a book wherein Dr. Cutler advises that we all have contacts with community. He stated that one outside group involvement or hobby can elevate mood, and extend our lives. Two activities or groups can double this life extension. The idea is that along with his treatment of patients for anxiety and depression with therapy and medication, he had them as part of their treatment connect with people, join groups, develop hobbies. He claims that this interaction made a huge difference. (sattva: I really like this idea. Thanks!) Perhaps, as you venture forth to living alone, you can develop skills that will connect you with others, even with mobility issues.
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Thanks!Aloka wrote:Hi sattva,
This short article from Ajahn Amaro "Inviting Fear" might be helpful.
http://www.tricycle.com/practice/inviting-fear
I hope things go well for you.
With metta,
Aloka
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