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Feeling Unsafe

Postby sattva » Fri Mar 14, 2014 4:16 am

I am probably 75% sure that this is only in my mind, but I am feeling a lot of fear about my move to a new place this weekend. Part of it may have to do with the fact that I have lived most of my life with other people and now I will be living alone. Add to that the facts that I am 60, with multiple health problems, including some mobility problems. I was once physically quite strong and now I couldn't fight my way out of a paper bag. I am not very happy about the location of the move but have no where else to go right now. I guess what I am feeling is very vulnerable and scared. Besides doing metta, which Buddha recommended for fear, does anyone else know of any other practices, chants, visualizations, etc., that could help me during this transition? My gut is saying run for the hills.
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Re: Feeling Unsafe

Postby cooran » Fri Mar 14, 2014 4:26 am

Hello sattva,

Metta is good, but so are some other ways:

https://www.psychology.org.au/publicati ... nxiety/#s6

With metta,
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Re: Feeling Unsafe

Postby Kusala » Fri Mar 14, 2014 4:47 am

sattva wrote:I am probably 75% sure that this is only in my mind, but I am feeling a lot of fear about my move to a new place this weekend. Part of it may have to do with the fact that I have lived most of my life with other people and now I will be living alone. Add to that the facts that I am 60, with multiple health problems, including some mobility problems. I was once physically quite strong and now I couldn't fight my way out of a paper bag. I am not very happy about the location of the move but have no where else to go right now. I guess what I am feeling is very vulnerable and scared. Besides doing metta, which Buddha recommended for fear, does anyone else know of any other practices, chants, visualizations, etc., that could help me during this transition? My gut is saying run for the hills.


These Dhamma talks may help... http://www.audiodharma.org/talks/?search=fear
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Re: Feeling Unsafe

Postby sattva » Fri Mar 14, 2014 5:26 am

cooran wrote:Hello sattva,

Metta is good, but so are some other ways:

https://www.psychology.org.au/publicati ... nxiety/#s6

With metta,
Chris


Thanks, Chris!
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Re: Feeling Unsafe

Postby sattva » Fri Mar 14, 2014 5:28 am

Kusala wrote:
sattva wrote:I am probably 75% sure that this is only in my mind, but I am feeling a lot of fear about my move to a new place this weekend. Part of it may have to do with the fact that I have lived most of my life with other people and now I will be living alone. Add to that the facts that I am 60, with multiple health problems, including some mobility problems. I was once physically quite strong and now I couldn't fight my way out of a paper bag. I am not very happy about the location of the move but have no where else to go right now. I guess what I am feeling is very vulnerable and scared. Besides doing metta, which Buddha recommended for fear, does anyone else know of any other practices, chants, visualizations, etc., that could help me during this transition? My gut is saying run for the hills.


These Dhamma talks may help... http://www.audiodharma.org/talks/?search=fear


Thanks, Kusala, ---what an impressive amount of talks on the subject!
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Re: Feeling Unsafe

Postby plwk » Fri Mar 14, 2014 5:39 am

Try this and this
Bhikkhus, if you develop and make much this one thing,
it invariably leads to weariness, cessation, appeasement, realization and extinction.
What is it? It is recollecting the Enlightened One.
If this single thing is recollected and made much,
it invariably leads to weariness, cessation, appeasement, realization and extinction.

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Re: Feeling Unsafe

Postby sattva » Fri Mar 14, 2014 6:53 am

plwk wrote:Try this and this


Thanks plwk! If I could take Sammy with me, I would probably feel better :D
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Re: Feeling Unsafe

Postby cooran » Fri Mar 14, 2014 7:33 am

What is going to happen to Sammy? Is he going to be rehoused?

With metta,
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Re: Feeling Unsafe

Postby plwk » Fri Mar 14, 2014 10:19 am

:shock: What a gorgeous Sammy :thumbsup:
Yeah, what's going to happen to Sammy?
Bhikkhus, if you develop and make much this one thing,
it invariably leads to weariness, cessation, appeasement, realization and extinction.
What is it? It is recollecting the Enlightened One.
If this single thing is recollected and made much,
it invariably leads to weariness, cessation, appeasement, realization and extinction.

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Re: Feeling Unsafe

Postby Anagarika » Fri Mar 14, 2014 12:05 pm

Sattva:

Already there are excellent suggestions to you. One thought I had was to practice a meditation on gratitude. A neuroscientist with a Buddhist approach has suggested that we can reset our anxiety and depression "setpoints" by concentrating on what in our life we can be grateful for. Even in difficult circumstances, we can meditate on the fact that we live in a country not at war, we have clean water and food to consume, we have someone in our lives that cares for us, we have a roof over our heads. We meditate on the idea that for millions of people, the above is not true; others exist that suffer from hunger, misery, and homelessness. See if there are threads of hope that you can tease out of your situation.

I also recall that HHDL and Dr. Howard Cutler wrote a book wherein Dr. Cutler advises that we all have contacts with community. He stated that one outside group involvement or hobby can elevate mood, and extend our lives. Two activities or groups can double this life extension. The idea is that along with his treatment of patients for anxiety and depression with therapy and medication, he had them as part of their treatment connect with people, join groups, develop hobbies. He claims that this interaction made a huge difference. Perhaps, as you venture forth to living alone, you can develop skills that will connect you with others, even with mobility issues.

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Re: Feeling Unsafe

Postby Aloka » Fri Mar 14, 2014 1:53 pm

Hi sattva,

This short article from Ajahn Amaro "Inviting Fear" might be helpful.

http://www.tricycle.com/practice/inviting-fear

I hope things go well for you.

With metta,

Aloka :hug:

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Re: Feeling Unsafe

Postby Kasina » Fri Mar 14, 2014 8:40 pm

cooran wrote:Hello sattva,

Metta is good, but so are some other ways:

https://www.psychology.org.au/publicati ... nxiety/#s6

With metta,
Chris


Kusala wrote:These Dhamma talks may help... http://www.audiodharma.org/talks/?search=fear


Both these posts helped me, good site Kusala.

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I longed to find myself a place
Unscathed — but I could not see it."


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Re: Feeling Unsafe

Postby sattva » Sat Mar 15, 2014 4:46 am

cooran wrote:What is going to happen to Sammy? Is he going to be rehoused?

With metta,
Chris


Sammy is going to be fine! Thanks for asking Chis and plwk. I am the one leaving. He will be staying right here with his mother (my niece), her new husband, and my fairly newly retired sister. Sammy along with Cane gets lots of love and attention which is right up his alley. He is such a friendly, affectionate, and mischievous cat! It would be hard not to love him. My bedroom will hopefully become a nursery before the year has ended, which is why I am leaving. Cane is more standoffish, but we get along okay. There are some people he doesn't take too at all, but he is a pretty cat. They are both really big cats!













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Re: Feeling Unsafe

Postby sattva » Sat Mar 15, 2014 4:57 am

BuddhaSoup wrote:Sattva:

Already there are excellent suggestions to you. One thought I had was to practice a meditation on gratitude. (sattva: An excellent idea and one every so often my teacher reminds me of!) A neuroscientist with a Buddhist approach has suggested that we can reset our anxiety and depression "setpoints" by concentrating on what in our life we can be grateful for. Even in difficult circumstances, we can meditate on the fact that we live in a country not at war, we have clean water and food to consume, we have someone in our lives that cares for us, we have a roof over our heads. We meditate on the idea that for millions of people, the above is not true; others exist that suffer from hunger, misery, and homelessness. See if there are threads of hope that you can tease out of your situation.

I also recall that HHDL and Dr. Howard Cutler wrote a book wherein Dr. Cutler advises that we all have contacts with community. He stated that one outside group involvement or hobby can elevate mood, and extend our lives. Two activities or groups can double this life extension. The idea is that along with his treatment of patients for anxiety and depression with therapy and medication, he had them as part of their treatment connect with people, join groups, develop hobbies. He claims that this interaction made a huge difference. (sattva: I really like this idea. Thanks!) Perhaps, as you venture forth to living alone, you can develop skills that will connect you with others, even with mobility issues.


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Re: Feeling Unsafe

Postby sattva » Sat Mar 15, 2014 4:59 am

Aloka wrote:Hi sattva,

This short article from Ajahn Amaro "Inviting Fear" might be helpful.

http://www.tricycle.com/practice/inviting-fear

I hope things go well for you.

With metta,

Aloka :hug:

Thanks! :hug:
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Re: Feeling Unsafe

Postby Modus.Ponens » Sat Mar 15, 2014 11:40 am

Hello Sattva

I hope this fear is temporary and fades quickly. Wishing you the best.

Metta.
He turns his mind away from those phenomena, and having done so, inclines his mind to the property of deathlessness: 'This is peace, this is exquisite — the resolution of all fabrications; the relinquishment of all acquisitions; the ending of craving; dispassion; cessation; Unbinding.'
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Re: Feeling Unsafe

Postby Cittasanto » Mon Mar 17, 2014 5:59 pm

hi Sattva,
I can't add anything that hasn't already been advised, but, I hope your move is better than expected, and Sammy is looked after like a kitty cat should be :)

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