"Happiness for me is a very conformist category...we don't really want what we think we desire"
Happiness for me is a very conformist category. It doesn't enter the frame.
You have a serious ideological deviation at the very beginning of the famous proclamation of independence -- the pursuit of happiness. There is an important point in psychoanalysis; it is that people do not really want or desire happiness. And I think it is good that it is like that. For example, let's be serious, when you are in a creative endeavour, in that wonderful fervor, "My god, I'm onto something," and so on. Happiness doesn't enter. You are ready to suffer.
Happiness for me is an unethical category. And also, we don't really want to get what think we want. The classical story that I like, the traditional male chauvinist scenario — I am married to my wife, relations with her are cold, and I have a mistress. All the time I dream, "Oh my god, if my wife were to disappear, it would open up new life for me with the mistress." You know what, every psychoanalyst will tell you quite often this happens — when for some reason when the wife goes away, you lose the mistress also. You thought, "This is all I want". When you have it there, it turns out that it was a much more complex situation where what you want is not really to live with the mistress, but to keep her at a distance, as an object of desire about which you dream. And this is not just an excessive situation. This is how things function. We don't really want what we think we desire.