Oh dear... the reason I mentioned the two monks and ALSO THE BOY is to talk about losers as examples from both sides taking the face value of the stories, nothing else, I didn't even mentioned names. Because from the boy's relatives point of view, monks leaving the Order and going back to join the lay life would be the correct thing -- a winner. I never thought it might go this far!
Sometimes I noticed a bit of "minimisation" when come to such issues.
Movtivation for behavior is often very difficult to determine. Given the case of Japanese monk (the other of whom I know nothing), I am more than willing to give him the benefit of consideration, given his experience and age.
If he had disrobed and lived a solitary life, that would have been a different matter. But to disrobe and get married to a wealthy beautician, now that indicates lust. I just wonder what are the reactions will be if the Dalai Lama disrobes and marries Madonna (tongue in cheek). Anyway, letting go can be practiced either way...
13. Just as rain breaks through an ill-thatched house, so passion penetrates an undeveloped mind.
19. Much though he recites the sacred texts, but acts not accordingly, that heedless man is like a cowherd who only counts the cows of others — he does not partake of the blessings of the holy life.
259. A man is not versed in Dhamma because he speaks much. He who, after hearing a little Dhamma, realizes its truth directly and is not heedless of it, is truly versed in the Dhamma.
However, about the Japanese monk (since you mentioned): I already mentioned in another thread in Lounge that I have a friend in Thailand. She also a beautician who took meditation instructions from the Japanese monk. In the beginning of January 2012, she told me something an affair between the Japanese monk and another beautician, that's I think more than one year before his leaving the robe. Anyway, this is my last post about the Japanese monk.