I'm a new member of Dhamma Wheel, but I have a strong respect for this community from the time I've browsed the threads. Now, I'll skimp on the details for it might misdirect what I'm pointing to. So it's been difficult to have 'normal' conversations for quite some time now. I just want to talk about Dhamma, and that's a problem for people around me like my family. I don't go out anymore to socialize (I'm in school), but it's not like I can't communicate with people. Briefly, what's your advice? I've thought about this quite a bit and just can't reach a conclusion in which everyone has peace. An example being that I won't/can't make comments like, 'wow, how about that rain last week?', 'that commercial on channel X was so funny.' this inability, or choice, makes it hard for people who are close to me to know what to say.
Hello and Welcome Ryan,
I don't think there's anything wrong with socialising with your school friends occasionally, or in having conversations with others about ordinary life.
When I first came into contact with Buddhism, I was so excited that I wanted to convert everyone else too, which didn't go down so well with friends & family! However,practising the Dhamma is really about looking inwards and seeing how we can improve ourselves and be a good example of the teachings we study. Maybe if we can do that, others might feel inspired by our company in a natural way, without us having to go into any detail unless we're asked.
...Anyway, the good news is that you can talk about the Dhamma here!
With kind wishes,
Aloka
I'm new to this 'quoting' bit, but I just wanted to say thank you! I guess it's a personal treasure of sorts.
Hi Ryan. What I find useful is to realise that the Dhamma is meant to enable us to interact with and communicate with all beings rather than cut us of from them. We do not have to shun idle chatter with our friends but using skilful speech we can inject a quality of compassion into the conversations . Eg. When our friends. Are criticising another we can gently point out their good points and speak of their attributes rather than their faults. Also we can redirect the conversation into subjects which are of benefit without using Bhuddist terminology in a way your friends can relate to. Try to find joy in others, you don't have to go along with their views. But equally you don't need to be judgemental. Look for your friends pluses and take pleasure in the company of these beautiful beings even though that beauty may be hidden , uncover it and you will find yourself in them and them in yourself. Loosen up babe and enjoy this beautiful world
