Adam, for what its worth, many of us here know what it is like to have manifold responsibilities. At one time I also had two jobs and attending university as a post-grad student as well as a young baby at home! While many of us don't have two part-time jobs on the go with university, you'll come to know when you are older that the complexity of daily life as a householder with or without family belies description.
So, there's a bit of collective wisdom here that you can draw from. It will take some time, but I think the best things you could do for yourself is to simplify where you can and to actively develop some of those qualities that I and others have alluded to via samatha meditation. Because, at the end of the day, its going to be your mental attitude at 'stressful' times or in dealing with the daily grind of having multiple balls suspended mid-air that will be your anchor. And don't worry about how long it takes. For most of us, this path is a lifelong endeavour - if not an endeavour that will span many lives.
I wish you the very best!
“No lists of things to be done. The day providential to itself. The hour. There is no later. This is later. All things of grace and beauty such that one holds them to one's heart have a common provenance in pain. Their birth in grief and ashes.”
- Cormac McCarthy, The Road
Learn this from the waters:
in mountain clefts and chasms,
loud gush the streamlets,
but great rivers flow silently.
- Sutta Nipata 3.725
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