I'd like to know how thoughts of hatred can be made to subside.
My mother's domestic partner likes to shout and yell at people, trying to control everything around him through orders and shouting, getting angry when people do not do what he wants. He shouts not only at me, but at everybody. But whenever he does that to me I can feel these thoughts of hatred toward him, like "What a nasty person he is, and senseless". And I don't like these thoughts because hatred is one of the three defilements and is the cause of bad kamma and dukkha.
So, any suggestions how I can deal with that?
Thanks a lot!
Do not think lightly of evil, saying, "It will not come to me." A drop at a time is the water pot filled. Likewise, the fool, gathering it little by little, fills himself with evil.
Do not think lightly of good, saying, "It will not come to me." A drop at a time is the water pot filled. Likewise, the wise man, gathering it little by little, fills himself with good.
—Gotama Buddha, Dhammapada 121-122