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Are monks allowed to touch their mothers?
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I am not sure what this is supposed to mean:
Bhikkhu Gavesako
Kiṃkusalagavesī anuttaraṃ santivarapadaṃ pariyesamāno... (MN 26)
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Kiṃkusalagavesī anuttaraṃ santivarapadaṃ pariyesamāno... (MN 26)
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Re: Are monks allowed to touch their mothers?
What about personal visits from parents, without touching?
I've wanted to ordain for a long time but i know it would upset my parents if they weren't able to keep in contact with me.
Also can you live as an anagarika at a monastery for years without requesting formal ordination?
I've wanted to ordain for a long time but i know it would upset my parents if they weren't able to keep in contact with me.
Also can you live as an anagarika at a monastery for years without requesting formal ordination?
“Knowing that this body is just like foam,
understanding it has the nature of a mirage,
cutting off Māra’s flower-tipped arrows,
one should go beyond the King of Death’s sight.”
understanding it has the nature of a mirage,
cutting off Māra’s flower-tipped arrows,
one should go beyond the King of Death’s sight.”
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Re: Are monks allowed to touch their mothers?
In the west it’s not uncommon for monks to hug their mothers when they go home to pay a visit and then confess the dukkaṭa offence when they get back to the monastery. But hugging them when they visit the monastery would probably be frowned upon.clw_uk wrote:What about personal visits from parents, without touching?
I've wanted to ordain for a long time but i know it would upset my parents if they weren't able to keep in contact with me.
In the traditional Theravada countries Asian monks generally keep the rule to the letter. Their mothers may not be entirely happy about it, but they don’t get inordinately upset. Having grown up in a Buddhist society they’ve pretty well internalized their culture’s perception of monks as being entirely off-limits to women.
In Thailand one could do this in theory, though in practice it would be unfeasible as a long-term option for a westerner because the special monastic visa extensions are granted only to bhikkhus and mae chees. In Burma I think such visa extensions are available to anyone staying long-term in a monastery or meditation centre. As for the Forest Sangha monasteries in Britain, Ven. Gavesako will know better than I how things are now. It used to be the case that although anagarikaship was generally regarded in the FS as the first stage in a programme that would eventually culminate in bhikkhuhood, exceptions would occasionally be made for men who wanted to live the brahmacariya but were unsuitable for (or debarred from) bhikkhuhood for one reason or another.clw_uk wrote:Also can you live as an anagarika at a monastery for years without requesting formal ordination?
Yena yena hi maññanti,
tato taṃ hoti aññathā.
In whatever way they conceive it,
It turns out otherwise.
(Sn. 588)
tato taṃ hoti aññathā.
In whatever way they conceive it,
It turns out otherwise.
(Sn. 588)
Re: Are monks allowed to touch their mothers?
My parents have visited me in the monastery many times. Clearly no prohibition on this.clw_uk wrote:What about personal visits from parents, without touching?
No Vinaya prohibition on this too, but individual monasteries may be have idiosyncratic prohibitions.I've wanted to ordain for a long time but i know it would upset my parents if they weren't able to keep in contact with me.
It depends on where.Also can you live as an anagarika at a monastery for years without requesting formal ordination?
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Sorry about my irrelevant earlier reply. I misread the question.clw_uk wrote:What about personal visits from parents, without touching?
I've wanted to ordain for a long time but i know it would upset my parents if they weren't able to keep in contact with me.
Yena yena hi maññanti,
tato taṃ hoti aññathā.
In whatever way they conceive it,
It turns out otherwise.
(Sn. 588)
tato taṃ hoti aññathā.
In whatever way they conceive it,
It turns out otherwise.
(Sn. 588)
Re: Are monks allowed to touch their mothers?
Major NO
AN 5.55
AN 5.55
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Herein, Lord, a mother and son
were both spending the rainy season in Sāvatthī,
as monk and nun.
They longed to see one another often;
the mother often wished for her son,
the son his mother.
And from seeing each other often,
companionship arose;
from companionship,
intimacy;
from intimacy,
amorousness;
and without giving up the training
and making their weakness manifest,
with their hearts inflamed,
they gave themselves over
to incestuous intercourse.
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Re: Are monks allowed to touch their mothers?
Touching one's mother without lust incurs only a dukkaṭa offence. Since dukkaṭas are classed as light offences (in fact the second lightest of all), not heavy ones, it's a minor NO.Sekha wrote:Major NO
Yena yena hi maññanti,
tato taṃ hoti aññathā.
In whatever way they conceive it,
It turns out otherwise.
(Sn. 588)
tato taṃ hoti aññathā.
In whatever way they conceive it,
It turns out otherwise.
(Sn. 588)
Re: Are monks allowed to touch their mothers?
Thank you Bhante, you are obviously right.
I should have said : Minor No that may become Major No according to the associated mental posture, especially if it becomes a recurring habit.
The sutta goes on:
I should have said : Minor No that may become Major No according to the associated mental posture, especially if it becomes a recurring habit.
The sutta goes on:
Bhikkhus, does the foolish man think the mother would not crave for the son or the son for the mother?
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