It just crossed my mind.
In case we agree, that men in general, -with the exception of those Buddhist males who read this, of course,- tend to be more aggressive, tend to become physically violent more often , abusive, are more forceful, and women tend to be softer, more actively compassionate than men, then isn't a lot of spiritual cultivation about developing a bit more of the 'female' side in ourselves, the softer and more sensitive side?
Are the men who practice Buddhism and so cultivate themselves, basically rediscovering their female aspects and begin to live them out, whilst others deny them, belittle them or are ashamed of sensitivity, caring, being gentle, being kind and compassionate?
Apropos, "gentle".
What is a perfect gentleman?
A Buddhist?
PS; I am aware of the sutta where 'form' is the issue and that you're stuck when you begin to classify...
Does Buddhism mean we "become" more 'feminine'?
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Re: Does Buddhism mean we "become" more 'feminine'?
If we are going to go with such stereotypes (which I don't necessary agree with, but know are popular), then one could also do the terribly over-generalized line of how women need to bring out some particular qualities which are often associated with the male of the species.
In short, I think it misses the point. Both males and females have good qualities and need to bring these out, and both also have negative qualities, which need to be overcome.
Conze does have an interesting comment on what you say though, but I'm not going to quote it for you right now! Somewhere in his article "Hate, Love and Perfect Wisdom", pg. 188 in Thirty Years of Buddhist Studies, 1967.
In short, I think it misses the point. Both males and females have good qualities and need to bring these out, and both also have negative qualities, which need to be overcome.
Conze does have an interesting comment on what you say though, but I'm not going to quote it for you right now! Somewhere in his article "Hate, Love and Perfect Wisdom", pg. 188 in Thirty Years of Buddhist Studies, 1967.
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Re: Does Buddhism mean we "become" more 'feminine'?
This sounds like the classical Jungian project which has found its way into popular culture. The man reconnect with their Anima and women with the Animus. Jung's formulation (being the first) was pretty simplistic.
In any case I guess in meditation things come up and in facing them we become more balanced and well-rounded as individuals.
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Re: Does Buddhism mean we "become" more 'feminine'?
Men in general wear pants more and women tend to wear skirts more so does this mean that women who wear pants are getting in touch with their masculine sides and the men in Burma who wear skirts are getting in touch with their feminine sides?
Men in general have more facial hair while women generally have a higher percentage of body fat....does this mean that women with facial hair are more in touch with their masculine side and fat men are more in touch with their femine side?
Men in general have A and women in general have B so does this mean that if women have A etc. and if men have B etc.?
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Men in general have more facial hair while women generally have a higher percentage of body fat....does this mean that women with facial hair are more in touch with their masculine side and fat men are more in touch with their femine side?
Men in general have A and women in general have B so does this mean that if women have A etc. and if men have B etc.?
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Dhamma Training isn't about balancing the sexes, both have the same desirable and undesirable qualities which need to be uprooted.
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Re: Does Buddhism mean we "become" more 'feminine'?
Panna, for me those are not stereotypes, but observations of the majority.Paññāsikhara wrote:If we are going to go with such stereotypes (which I don't necessary agree with, but know are popular), then one could also do the terribly over-generalized line of how women need to bring out some particular qualities which are often associated with the male of the species.
In short, I think it misses the point. Both males and females have good qualities and need to bring these out, and both also have negative qualities, which need to be overcome.
Conze does have an interesting comment on what you say though, but I'm not going to quote it for you right now! Somewhere in his article "Hate, Love and Perfect Wisdom", pg. 188 in Thirty Years of Buddhist Studies, 1967.
Ah...lets get away from good and bad, that is not the point.Both males and females have good qualities and need to bring these out, and both also have negative qualities, which need to be overcome.
Why not?Conze does have an interesting comment on what you say though, but I'm not going to quote it for you right now!
Aha.Somewhere in his article "Hate, Love and Perfect Wisdom", pg. 188 in Thirty Years of Buddhist Studies, 1967.
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Thanks for making fun of the topic.chownah wrote:Men in general wear pants more and women tend to wear skirts more so does this mean that women who wear pants are getting in touch with their masculine sides and the men in Burma who wear skirts are getting in touch with their feminine sides?
Men in general have more facial hair while women generally have a higher percentage of body fat....does this mean that women with facial hair are more in touch with their masculine side and fat men are more in touch with their femine side?
Men in general have A and women in general have B so does this mean that if women have A etc. and if men have B etc.?
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Re: Does Buddhism mean we "become" more 'feminine'?
These are all stereotypes of course and there are plenty of exceptions (that prove the rule ) , but still an interesting topic.
Women are often associated with compassion, nurturing, mothering, and loving-kindness; two of the brahma viharas: metta and karuna.
Men are often associated with being more stoic, not showing their emotions, not crying, etc; two of the brahma viharas: upekkha and mudita.
So maybe, men are becoming more feminine, but women are also becoming more masculine, with the practice. Or maybe we are all becoming neuter.
Women are often associated with compassion, nurturing, mothering, and loving-kindness; two of the brahma viharas: metta and karuna.
Men are often associated with being more stoic, not showing their emotions, not crying, etc; two of the brahma viharas: upekkha and mudita.
So maybe, men are becoming more feminine, but women are also becoming more masculine, with the practice. Or maybe we are all becoming neuter.
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Re: Does Buddhism mean we "become" more 'feminine'?
Ajahn Vayama reminded us in a podcast that we have all been men and we have all been women in countless previous lives. It is not so much that we are "male" or "female" in this life, but we have the capacity, and the history/ kammic energy for both.
"As I am, so are others;
as others are, so am I."
Having thus identified self and others,
harm no one nor have them harmed.
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as others are, so am I."
Having thus identified self and others,
harm no one nor have them harmed.
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Re: Does Buddhism mean we "become" more 'feminine'?
Annabel,
Not more feminine, but definitely more peaceful Speaking for myself, I am much less inclined to anger, much less prone to planning for conflict, and quite possibly, much less ready to deal with conflict should it arise. My wife has noticed the change in me over these past months and, on rare occasion, she says "Don't forget how to be a Marine." (I was in the Marine Corps in my youth and it made a powerful and lasting impression on me.)
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Not more feminine, but definitely more peaceful Speaking for myself, I am much less inclined to anger, much less prone to planning for conflict, and quite possibly, much less ready to deal with conflict should it arise. My wife has noticed the change in me over these past months and, on rare occasion, she says "Don't forget how to be a Marine." (I was in the Marine Corps in my youth and it made a powerful and lasting impression on me.)
Regards: AdvaitaJ
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Re: Does Buddhism mean we "become" more 'feminine'?
Haha! Sounds like you read the Conze article I referred to above!Dan74 wrote:This sounds like the classical Jungian project which has found its way into popular culture. The man reconnect with their Anima and women with the Animus. Jung's formulation (being the first) was pretty simplistic.
In any case I guess in meditation things come up and in facing them we become more balanced and well-rounded as individuals.
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And, as Dan says, there would be a complementary side for the animus in women, too.II. My second observation concerns the feminity of the Prajnaparamita. Feminine by th grammatical form of her name, she is explicitly called a "mother" in the sutras themselves, and, on statues and images, the femininity of her form is rarely in doubt. To be psychologically sound, a religion should take heed of the feminine principle in our psyche, which has at least three functions to fulfil: First of all, as a representation of the mother, it helps to dissolve hindering residues of infantile conflict. J. Campbell in The Hero with a Thousand Faces (1949) has dealt superbly with this aspect of the problem, and I must refer my readers to his book. Secondly, incorporation of the feminine force deals with sexual incompleteness in that it completes the male by bringing his own femininity to the fore. Finally, this approach deals with sexual insufficiency in that, on a spiritual level, it satisfies the perpetual hankering after union with the sexual opposite.
Individuals, while generally male or female, are composed of a mixture of masculine and feminine elements, dispositions and attitudes. Both men and women can be more or less "masculine" or "feminine". Persons are incomplete if they try to exclude either. They must aim at a balance between the two. In the words of a psychologist*:
"Either principle pursued exclusively leads to death. Whoever unites them in himself has the best chance of life. This is the ultimate meaning of 'the spiritual marriage'. In this sense God is both Father and Mother, and is therefore androgynous. Love-with-Law and Law-without-Love are both false positions. The true position is Love-creating-Law and Law-revealing-Love. The monistic principle is primary, but insufficient to itself."
Where meditation is carried on by men, they most complete themselves by fostering the feminine element in their personality. They must practise passivity and loose softness. They must learn to open freely the gates of nature, and to let the mysterious and hidden forces of this world penetrate into them, stream in and through them. When they identify themselves with the Perfection of Wisdom, they merge with the principle of Femininity (Jung's anima), without which they would be mutilated men. Like a woman the Perfection of Wisdom deserves to be courted and wooed. Meditation on her as a Goddess has the purpose of getting inside her, identifying oneself with her, becoming her, as a man wishes to merge his body with that of a woman.
* H D Jennings-White, Guide to Mental Health, 1939, p. 258.
Conze, E "Hate, Love and Perfect Wisdom", in Thirty Years of Buddhist Studies, pg. 188, 1967.
Interesting to note, that though Conze says all this, he was known as having an almighty virulent evil temper, too. Maybe he was writing it as a memo to himself.
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Re: Does Buddhism mean we "become" more 'feminine'?
This looks to me like an attempt to buttress the idea that females are superior and "own" spirituality. Very unhealthy.Annabel wrote: It just crossed my mind.
In case we agree, that men in general, -with the exception of those Buddhist males who read this, of course,- tend to be more aggressive, tend to become physically violent more often , abusive, are more forceful, and women tend to be softer, more actively compassionate than men, then isn't a lot of spiritual cultivation about developing a bit more of the 'female' side in ourselves, the softer and more sensitive side?
One might just as easily say that that Buddhism leads to the development of virtues such as strength, courage and perserverance, therefore spiritual progress must mean becoming masculine.
Re: Does Buddhism mean we "become" more 'feminine'?
One could certainly say both of those things - and then throw them away, because it's better and simpler to say that spiritual progress is a matter of redressing our imbalances and shortcomings. Identifying each problem area as 'masculine' or 'feminine' is not very useful, IMO, because it subtly reinforces stereotypical behaviour and expectations.catmoon wrote:... One might just as easily say that that Buddhism leads to the development of virtues such as strength, courage and perserverance, therefore spiritual progress must mean becoming masculine.Annabel wrote: ... men in general ... tend to be more aggressive, tend to become physically violent more often , abusive, are more forceful, and women tend to be softer, more actively compassionate than men, then isn't a lot of spiritual cultivation about developing a bit more of the 'female' side in ourselves, the softer and more sensitive side?
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Re: Does Buddhism mean we "become" more 'feminine'?
Good post Kim.
Why concentrate on masculine or feminine?
What difference does being a woman make
When the mind is well-composed,
When knowledge is proceeding on,
When one rightly sees into Dhamma?
Indeed for whom the question arises:
"Am I a man or a woman?"
Or, "Am I even something at all?"
To them alone is Mara fit to talk!
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Why concentrate on masculine or feminine?
What difference does being a woman make
When the mind is well-composed,
When knowledge is proceeding on,
When one rightly sees into Dhamma?
Indeed for whom the question arises:
"Am I a man or a woman?"
Or, "Am I even something at all?"
To them alone is Mara fit to talk!
http://www.accesstoinsight.org/tipitaka ... .olen.html" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;
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Re: Does Buddhism mean we "become" more 'feminine'?
No I haven't read it yet. But I have heard that Conze was pretty keen on Jung's ideas.Paññāsikhara wrote:Haha! Sounds like you read the Conze article I referred to above!Dan74 wrote:This sounds like the classical Jungian project which has found its way into popular culture. The man reconnect with their Anima and women with the Animus. Jung's formulation (being the first) was pretty simplistic.
In any case I guess in meditation things come up and in facing them we become more balanced and well-rounded as individuals.
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