Dukkhanirodha wrote:The answer in my view to the 'contesting point' is: never. What happens during the meditation is linked with everything else you do in your daily life (which is why its effects are so mighty), so you can't keep multiplying your cravings on one side and try to suppress them on the other for a long time. If you really want to get the real fruits of this path, a choice has to be made at some point.
That might be your take, but Ajahn Brahm and Bhante Gunaratana both experts in the practice and theory of Jhana and who have each written manuals for lay practitioners on how to attain jhana, neither one mentioned complete abstinence from sex. Even the buddha who recommended householders to abide in seclusion and rapture mentions nothing about celibacy only that...“When a disciple of the noble ones enters & remains in seclusion & rapture...The pain & distress dependent on sensuality do not exist AT THAT TIME.” http://www.accesstoinsight.org/tipitaka ... .than.html
This is our foundation: to have sati, recollection, and sampajañña, self-awareness, whether standing, walking, sitting, or reclining. Whatever arises, just leave it be, don't cling to it. Be it like or dislike, happiness or suffering, doubt or certainty. Don't try to label everything, just know it. See that all the things that arise in the mind are simply sensations. They are transient. They arise, exist and cease. That's all there is to them, they have no self or being, they are neither ''us'' nor ''them.'' They are not worthy of clinging to, any of them. - Ajahn Chah