I am happy to see a father concerned and caring like you are. I think it's great.
One: the challenge issue. My daughter is seven and the projects that are choosen for her troop are pre-school type things. Like, color something in, trace your hand and draw feathers to make a turkey. She might sit at a table with other girls but they work alone on these overly simply projects. She is not being taught any new skills at all.
On the other hand, Thai, those kids are still young.
In the mornings they go to school, and learn and study a lot.
In the afternoons, they should play. Not learn, learn, learn, even more.
Thaibepop, after school and lunch, in the afternoons, I had burned up my fuel, and needed to do silly, simple, relaxing things to reload my batteries. Mostly I just played hide and seek, climbed trees, played with cats and so forth.
I think we tend to overchallenge our children as well as ourselves in our leisure time with achievements, challenges and more of it.
Many of us are overachievers who can't relax anymore.
We are living in a Yang domainated world, and have forgotten how to live out our Yin nature.
That is a part of the reason why we want to sit and meditate. It helps us to come back to balance.
My short time in the Boy Scouts I was at least introduced to woodworking and survival skills, and that was all at the same age she is at now.
Ok, but you were a boy, and she is a girl. I'm really not familiar with scouts, as we don't have that here, but we were taught others skills than boys as well. You don't seem to value what she is getting taught.
Two: the cookies. It is clear you are not familiar with the Girl Scouts of America. The girls don't bake anything.
That's a pity. In the Christian group I went to, we baked cookies ourselves....
we had so much fun. I ate a lot of dough.
Girl Scout cookies are mass produced, like Oreos, by a large company that the Girls Scouts hire. So, the girls have the job of selling them. This means going door to door, asking family members, standing on sidewalks during the winter I might add, to sell to people going in and out of stores.
Woah, I wouldn't want to do that. I understand you.
See my daughter had in activity which was her having to draw a picture about how best to serve God. I am sure the organization isn't to keen on that, but I am not sure they would back my complaint. So, talking to the Den Mother wouldn't help, she is the one in charge and it would be too tough a fight for nothing really.
Hm....could be, but you'll never know until you talk to her. I don't know if it's worth the hassle.
She has already come home telling us that some of her 'friends' think is is strange because she doesn't go to church. Some of these 'friends' are in her girl scout troop as well. The adults are smart enough not to say too much but they teach their kids this intolerence and the kids aren't so good and keeping their mouths shut. So, when these moments occur I want to draw her attention to it so she can understand this behavior is not right. This isn't about the religion so much as the behavior of the people.
That is a dangerous thing to do, actually.
It is normal that children notice a behaviour which deviates from the social norm and that they become curious about it and inquire. They find it "strange", but actually only because they can't make head or tail of it and so it becomes "strange". It is of vital importance here that you equip your daughter here with a few good lines to say.
We also didn't go to church, and so when I got asked why, I said:
"Because we pray at home. " End of story! (WHAT we call praying, is our biz, of course.
) You can also avert attention from her by giving her the line:
"I don't know, ask my Dad". Bang.
Four: I understand way you think I am fearful of Chirstianity, and you're right, I am. I am not teaching my daughter to be hateful or fearful, but I am worried. I don't care if she learns about the religion, keeping it hidden would be impossible anyway. I wish to empower her. You see I experienced hate right here in the same city and state. I was picked on, spit on, (really), told I was trash, I was going to burn in hell, and so on.
Yeah, and it affected you. I was mad too about some injustice...
It didn't affect me a whole lot though, I think because my parents equipped me well with explanations. I see you want to do that too, by "empowering her". Very good.
Try perhaps not to create an enemy picture though.
When she asks me the questions that would address my opinions on such matters is when I will speak to her on them.
That's too late, imo. That's also the reason why you worry.
You need to do some imprinting first, with your own ethics, and get her a good insulation against nonsense.
My parents equipped me early in a casual way and when I was confronted with other ideas, I was prepared.
I wonder why so many parents wait until the world outside makes the first imprints.
I wouldn't. I'm convinced I can do it better.
I hope I didn't misinterpret what you said.