What did you expect?

[Michael_S]

I seem to recall reading a sutta in which someone is complaining
about the difficulties of life and people, and the buddha responds in
several refrains "What did you expect?"
Does this ring a bell with anyone? I've looked but don't know how to find it
so I can read it again. Thanks
Mike

[Annapurna]

I know it and will try to locate it in my files

[cooran]

Hello Michael_S, all,

Maybe something like this?

"But, Ananda, haven't I already taught you the state of growing different with regard to all things dear & appealing, the state of becoming separate, the state of becoming otherwise? What else is there to expect? It's impossible that one could forbid anything born, existent, fabricated, & subject to disintegration from disintegrating.

"Just as if the largest limb were to fall off of a great tree composed of heartwood, standing firm; in the same way, Sariputta has attained total Unbinding from this great community of monks composed of heartwood, standing firm. What else is there to expect? It's impossible that one could forbid anything born, existent, fabricated, & subject to disintegration from disintegrating.
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metta
Chris

[Annapurna]

This?

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AN 10.80

Aghata Sutta: Hatred

"There are these ten ways of subduing hatred. Which ten?

[1] "Thinking, 'He has done me harm. But what should I expect?' one subdues hatred.

[2] "Thinking, 'He is doing me harm. But what should I expect?' one subdues hatred.

[3] "Thinking, 'He is going to do me harm. But what should I expect?' one subdues hatred.

[4] "Thinking, 'He has done harm to people who are dear & pleasing to me. But what should I expect?' one subdues hatred.

[5] "Thinking, 'He is doing harm to people who are dear & pleasing to me. But what should I expect?' one subdues hatred.

[6] "Thinking, 'He is going to do harm to people who are dear & pleasing to me. But what should I expect?' one subdues hatred.

[7] "Thinking, 'He has aided people who are not dear or pleasing to me. But what should I expect?' one subdues hatred.

[8] "Thinking, 'He is aiding people who are not dear or pleasing to me. But what should I expect?' one subdues hatred.

[9] "Thinking, 'He is going to aid people who are not dear or pleasing to me. But what should I expect?' one subdues hatred.

[10] "One does not get worked up over impossibilities.

"These are ten ways of subduing hatred."

[cooran]

Good one, Annapurna! Thanks.

with metta
Chris

[Annapurna]

Thank you, Chris

[Michael_S]

Thanks Anapurna (and the others who have looked for it).
That is the one I was thinking of. I should memorize it since
it applies to vexing situations presently endured.
-Michael