I have followed the discussion and will continue to, even if I continue to have nothing to add. It is helpful to me to read different viewpoints from those further along the path.
So, thanks to all parties for maintaining civility even in disagreement, and thanks to the admins for allowing open dialogue.
"To reach beyond fear and danger we must sharpen and widen our vision. We have to pierce through the deceptions that lull us into a comfortable complacency, to take a straight look down into the depths of our existence, without turning away uneasily or running after distractions." -- Bhikkhu Bodhi
"No man ever steps in the same river twice, for it's not the same river and he's not the same man." -- Heraclitus