I have followed the discussion and will continue to, even if I continue to have nothing to add. It is helpful to me to read different viewpoints from those further along the path.
So, thanks to all parties for maintaining civility even in disagreement, and thanks to the admins for allowing open dialogue.
"The serene and peaceful mind is the true epitome of human achievement." -- Ajahn Chah, Living Dhamma
"To reach beyond fear and danger we must sharpen and widen our vision. We have to pierce through the deceptions that lull us into a comfortable complacency, to take a straight look down into the depths of our existence, without turning away uneasily or running after distractions." -- Bhikkhu Bodhi