Eradicating the Taints, Encouraging Wholesomeness

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Eradicating the Taints, Encouraging Wholesomeness

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Our conversation in "A Difficult Situation" became 're-conditioned' into a quack about wholesome behaviour, the taints, and generally, desires, grasping, sila, sanna and how to deal with unpleasant people, places and things. Which, actually, can be a 'difficult situation' How does one act wisely when dealing with annoying people? How does one restrain and control that mind - that "ever present constant "I" (Wallace Stevens) that we struggle with.

Dhamma Spoon thoughtfully provided a sutta as a basis for discussion:

http://www.accesstoinsight.org/tipitaka ... .ntbb.html

"And what, friends, is the unwholesome, what is the root of the unwholesome, what is the wholesome, what is the root of the wholesome? ...

"When, friends, a noble disciple understands the taints, the origin of the taints, the cessation of the taints, and the way leading to the cessation of the taints, in that way he is one of right view, whose view is straight, who has perfect confidence in the Dhamma and has arrived at this true Dhamma.

"And what are the taints, what is the origin of the taints, what is the cessation of the taints, what is the way leading to the cessation of the taints?

Otay kiddies - have at it. Rambly posts are welcome here :D

Right now going nighty-night on Mt. Meru,

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Vepacitta wrote:How does one act wisely when dealing with annoying people?
Patience, equanimity and loving friendliness.

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Liberation is the inevitable fruit of the path and is bound to blossom forth when there is steady and persistent practice. The only requirements for reaching the final goal are two: to start and to continue. If these requirements are met there is no doubt the goal will be attained. This is the Dhamma, the undeviating law.

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:goodpost:

Wisdom is also needed.
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Which, actually, can be a 'difficult situation' How does one act wisely when dealing with annoying people? How does one restrain and control that mind - that "ever present constant "I" (Wallace Stevens) that we struggle with.
This is a great question and has been on my mind lately and just to say that one uses equanimity wisdom etc presupposes that one has reached heights of moral development that i currently dont occupy.

I have had "spiritual" insights, i have experienced metta for my fellow beings, even despite their faults and stupidity. Yet in interaction with them, when the going gets bumpy, i have knee jerk mental responses that come into play. I can even see it happening, even when a part of me is thinking "this is not helping, shut up". I am even brusque with people at times and dont even really think about it till after its happend, its just a knee jerk response.

Who here doesnt do this?
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I can relate to that. When dealing with obnoxious people, it's difficult to stop myself from zoning out and becoming uncooperative and unresponsive. Which doesn't help at all. At best I can muster up some equanimity, but it isn't usually easy.
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If there were no one around to annoy us, how would we train ourselves in the virtues of equanimity and forebearance?
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dude wrote:If there were no one around to annoy us, how would we train ourselves in the virtues of equanimity and forebearance?
An interesting thought.
It seems to presuppose that the source of our misery, and liberation,are external to ourselves. When in fact, all our misery and our key to liberation, are found within ourselves. When someone annoys us, we are really just experiencing the dukkha arising from unpleasant dhammas and our habitual reactions to them. The other person is just sensory data impacting on our sense organs. All the annoying is going on within ourselves. Its the misery we inflict upon ourselves.
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There are no annoying people. There is just annoyance. And as Ben says, thats in us.
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Ben wrote:
dude wrote:If there were no one around to annoy us, how would we train ourselves in the virtues of equanimity and forebearance?
An interesting thought.
It seems to presuppose that the source of our misery, and liberation,are external to ourselves. When in fact, all our misery and our key to liberation, are found within ourselves. When someone annoys us, we are really just experiencing the dukkha arising from unpleasant dhammas and our habitual reactions to them. The other person is just sensory data impacting on our sense organs. All the annoying is going on within ourselves. Its the misery we inflict upon ourselves.
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Yes Ben - I quite agree. However, saying that - intellectually knowing it - and being able to actually embody (mwaaa haaa) that are two very different things. For example, I have seen people on this board with very impressive knowlege of the suttas, the Pali grammar, etc. and yet their actions are ... "habitually reactive" to use your phrase. So are mine - of course - else I wouldn't use the Asura handle.

So, I'm not flaming here - I'm just making the point - how does one do this - in a practical manner? What have we noticed (or missed) in our practise?

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Hi Vepacitta

Its a very good question and one that I would like to answer at some point at length. An answer that I hope will provide you with my perspective which is mainly practice derived. Unfortunately, its past midnight right now and I'm going to be flat out all day and night tomorrow. Sorry for 'doing a runner'! Perhaps sometime over the weekend I'll get time to pump out a reply. In the interim,perhaps some of our other members might be willing to share their knowledge and experiences with you.
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Learn this from the waters:
in mountain clefts and chasms,
loud gush the streamlets,
but great rivers flow silently.
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PeterB wrote:There are no annoying people. There is just annoyance. And as Ben says, thats in us.
If all people had an equanimious nature, i'd agree. People have qualities - good - bad - indifferent. It is a matter of us not letting their bad qualities become our bad qualities, getting their good qualities to be our good qualities. Why else would the Buddha speak so highly appropriate companionship? There are annoying people - but it is up to us to not let their annoyance become our annoyance. There are loving, considerate people - it is up to us to get their love and compassion to become our love and compassion.

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Well, if you find it difficult to use it as an opportunity to train yourself, recognize the true aspect of the situation. The cause of your suffering and unpleasant feeling is not outside yourself. Thank the annoying person for causing you displeasure and helping you expiate the karma you created in the past.
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