Hi all, I just found this post. Thank god(s), I'm not the only one.
I live alone, am quite shy (and shyness does nothing to impress women), so porn has become my 'de facto' lover of sorts. I've tried VERY hard to give it up. Heaps of times.
Really, since a monastery is out of the question (I have my kids over every weekend), I would be better off having a girlfriend than engaging in 'pleasure devoid of love', which is what masturbation to porn is. Not good for the heart's development, really. At least with a (real) woman, sex would not JUST be about sex, genuine affection would be mixed in there too.
Anyway this website has exceeded my expectations;
I never expected people would be understanding of this issue also. Thank goodness those of us who suffer from it don't have to hide for fear of harsh judgement.
So I too have the same aspiration as the others here, I aspire to free myself completely from porn (Guess I just admitted that it's a mild addiction at present). May we all succeed.
PS, someone said that if it's a problem, 'just don't do it!' Respectfully, that's like telling an alcoholic or a smoker 'well just stop' and expecting that it's just that simple. You have to have been addicted to something on a chemical level to know how tough the process of freeing yourself is. At the moment of orgasm, dopamine and other neurochemicals get released in the brain, and an orgasm junkie is actually hooked on those chemicals
, more than the physical sensation of about ten seconds duration. It's chemical
, that's why its as tough as alcohol or smokes to give up.