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by Bundokji
Mon Oct 26, 2020 11:45 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Only delivering Karma
Replies: 9
Views: 173

Re: Only delivering Karma

Missing the point of why a certain law is taught would lead to a misuse of the law. The law of Kamma teaches us that intentional actions have consequences in order to become mindful of our own actions. It is primarily preventive for those who understand its purpose, not predictive. In other words, i...
by Bundokji
Sun Oct 25, 2020 11:32 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Social norms and the recently deceased
Replies: 26
Views: 366

Re: Social norms and the recently deceased

Who said it was? I didn't say having tough stances leads to mental development. I said you shouldn't discount the ability of people that have black and white thinking to mature over time, to have such rough edges rounded off, to grow. The air your post gave off was somewhat fatalistic, I don't know...
by Bundokji
Sat Oct 24, 2020 11:51 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Social norms and the recently deceased
Replies: 26
Views: 366

Re: Social norms and the recently deceased

binocular wrote: Sat Oct 24, 2020 11:39 am It's an ad hominem. It's not a fallacious one.
It is fallacious as it does not add substance to the discussion.
by Bundokji
Sat Oct 24, 2020 11:50 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Social norms and the recently deceased
Replies: 26
Views: 366

Re: death of forum member dylanj

Are you socially inept or something? You said, "I ended my conversation with her by asking how would he spent his time had he stayed longer?" Anyone who is socially competent understands that saying such a thing as in the case of your cousin is a polite way of saying that "he's better off dead". Be...
by Bundokji
Sat Oct 24, 2020 11:35 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Social norms and the recently deceased
Replies: 26
Views: 366

Re: Social norms and the recently deceased

binocular wrote: Sat Oct 24, 2020 11:13 am While you may be a black sheep, that doesn't make those around you sheep.
Ad hominem does not add much substance to the discussion.
by Bundokji
Sat Oct 24, 2020 11:33 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Social norms and the recently deceased
Replies: 26
Views: 366

Re: death of forum member dylanj

You were praising death to her, and basically told her that her son is better off dead. Sure, she was calmer after that, the calm that comes from feeling relief: you convinced her that he was better off dead. No doubt she was wondering before about these things, but you swayed her. Where did i say ...
by Bundokji
Sat Oct 24, 2020 9:39 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Social norms and the recently deceased
Replies: 26
Views: 366

Re: Social norms and the recently deceased

I didn't know Dylan, I don't post here often, but reading the shine thread made me cognizant of a complexity for which I can certainly empathise. There was some suggestion that Dylan was abusing drugs or something. And here Bundkoji, you cite him saying some stuff that rubbed you and others the wro...
by Bundokji
Sat Oct 24, 2020 9:00 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Social norms and the recently deceased
Replies: 26
Views: 366

Re:

It's easy to forget that (often) that which one sees as a characteristic in others (bad and good) one is able to recognise because that characteristic is within one. It's making a judgement that highlights the remaining efforts to make, much more so than saying anything about the other. There is a ...
by Bundokji
Sat Oct 24, 2020 8:46 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Social norms and the recently deceased
Replies: 26
Views: 366

Re: Social norms and the recently deceased

i just wanted to say i think it's ok to not have a 100% favorable view of someone just because they died. and it could be a reminder not to look at things with rose-colored glasses but instead aim for a clear and sober view. as someone who talked with him A LOT i know he wasn't perfect, but his hea...
by Bundokji
Sat Oct 24, 2020 8:05 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Social norms and the recently deceased
Replies: 26
Views: 366

Re: death of forum member dylanj

Saying or in any way implying or hinting things to the effect of "Such and such is better off dead" is a breach of the first precept. The quality of actions are determined by the mindstate. An action driven by attachments and delusions do not lead to good destinations. How would you like it if his ...
by Bundokji
Fri Oct 23, 2020 10:20 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Social norms and the recently deceased
Replies: 26
Views: 366

Re: death of forum member dylanj

binocular wrote: Fri Oct 23, 2020 8:50 pm Saying or in any way implying or hinting things to the effect of "Such and such is better off dead" is a breach of the first precept.
The quality of actions are determined by the mindstate. An action driven by attachments and delusions do not lead to good destinations.
by Bundokji
Fri Oct 23, 2020 1:46 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: The Buddha has very high IQ
Replies: 18
Views: 325

Re: The Buddha has very high IQ

Ancient India provided different paths to spiritual knowledge, which can be summarized as practices focusing on devotion, and practices that are more intellectual in nature such as in philosophy. In Buddhist context, this often presented itself as the path of insight and the path of concentration wi...
by Bundokji
Thu Oct 22, 2020 5:05 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Social norms and the recently deceased
Replies: 26
Views: 366

Social norms and the recently deceased

[ split from the shrine room topic for dylanj ] Focusing on the goodness of the deceased and overlooking their shortcomings is a good social practice. Death is often a reminder that most of our quarrels are of little significance. The Buddha taught: There are those who do not realize that one day w...
by Bundokji
Mon Oct 19, 2020 6:41 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Suicide is not Buddhist
Replies: 40
Views: 849

Re: Suicide is not Buddhist

I think whether there is an afterlife or not is not the best argument for or against suicide. If rebirth completely negates the meaning of death, then contemplating death would be an act of foolishness. If death completely negates the meaning of an afterlife, then monks who take their own lives wont...
by Bundokji
Fri Oct 16, 2020 4:42 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Does the Dhamma take care of its own?
Replies: 34
Views: 540

Re: Does the Dhamma take care of its own?

cappuccino wrote: Fri Oct 16, 2020 4:40 pm given the millions of Buddhists, merely a guess


in order to correct his delusion
How kind of you :group: