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by Laurens
Tue Jun 09, 2020 10:44 am
Forum: Samatha Bhāvana
Topic: How many of you really tried to attain jhana?
Replies: 225
Views: 126066

Re: How many of you really tried to attain jhana?

You've given up. Don't tell this to others. Jhana is the best cheat code and it is worth pursuing till you die. The world is mara's cheat code on your happiness. Cheating away your pleasure. Jhana takes the power back. You need to be "dwelling alone, withdrawn, heedful, ardent, and resolute" if you...
by Laurens
Sun Jun 07, 2020 8:17 pm
Forum: Ordination and Monastic Life
Topic: I’m done with laylife.
Replies: 197
Views: 73133

Re: I’m done with laylife.

Might? I think the dhamma has been shut down, and it’s not a “might” but a must? So how and why is this allowed to happen? When does this open up again? What if it’s years? The dhamma hasn't been shut down. Many monasteries are providing online services and so on. Just in the interests of not sprea...
by Laurens
Sun Jun 07, 2020 5:27 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: People are ...?
Replies: 64
Views: 67727

Re: People are ...?

In my experience people are mostly alright.

Not fully good, not fully bad, a bit of both, often deluded.
by Laurens
Sun Jun 07, 2020 4:52 pm
Forum: Ordination and Monastic Life
Topic: I’m done with laylife.
Replies: 197
Views: 73133

Re: I’m done with laylife.

As stated it’s a non issue. It’s not the area for exploration in this topic. Is there a place for me to ordain? Probably nowhere given the current circumstances. You could join an online Sangha during these times, but it's unlikely that you'll find a monastery that are allowing visitors. Might have...
by Laurens
Sun Jun 07, 2020 1:51 pm
Forum: Ordination and Monastic Life
Topic: I’m done with laylife.
Replies: 197
Views: 73133

Re: I’m done with laylife.

What do your wife and family think of your idea about becoming a monk?
by Laurens
Fri Jun 05, 2020 10:29 pm
Forum: Theravāda for Beginners
Topic: Best Guide for Breath Meditation For Beginners
Replies: 29
Views: 19023

Re: Best Guide for Breath Meditation For Beginners

My problem is... I wind up combining the different instructions. I'll start of trying to just follow the 16 Anapanasati Steps... then wind up trying to follow what Thanissaro said about breath energy... then I'll think of the steps from Mindfulness in Plain English... all of which have slight varia...
by Laurens
Fri Jun 05, 2020 8:17 am
Forum: Theravāda for Beginners
Topic: Best Guide for Breath Meditation For Beginners
Replies: 29
Views: 19023

Re: Best Guide for Breath Meditation For Beginners

I think that one has to accept that there are many different interpretations on the practises described in the anapanasati sutta. All have the breath as focus but use different techniques. There is no real way to know for certain which is correct or whether or not the correct practice as exactly tau...
by Laurens
Wed Jun 03, 2020 5:01 pm
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: Mandatory masking anapanna practice
Replies: 25
Views: 5903

Re: Mandatory masking anapanna practice

I suppose you have a few options: You can work with how the breath feels with the mask on, trying to let go of the part of you that would prefer it to feel different. It is how it is kinda deal. Or you could, when you have to wear the mask focus on something else, such as bodily posture and movement...
by Laurens
Tue Jun 02, 2020 11:01 am
Forum: Sīla
Topic: lie, watching porn, hearing music, playing games compatible with trying to attain first stage of enlightment?
Replies: 156
Views: 14188

Re: lie, watching porn, hearing music, playing games compatible with trying to attain first stage of enlightment?

Just as an aside to the whole notion of lying to protect Jews. Most of us would not have had the courage to shelter Jews from the Nazis in the first place let alone lie to protect them. That is why they killed as many as they did. You can fantasise all you want about how you might skilfully not lie,...
by Laurens
Mon Jun 01, 2020 8:54 pm
Forum: Theravāda for Beginners
Topic: Tired of the meaningless cycle in modern life (RANT)
Replies: 17
Views: 10945

Re: Tired of the meaningless cycle in modern life (RANT)

Everyday, I work at a job that I feel neutral about, easily spending 10+ hours a day in front of the comp. I come back home and I feel too tired to practice 1+ hour or study the dhamma. I've been feeling this hopelessness for about 3 years now, worrying that my own decision to end employment and jo...
by Laurens
Sun May 31, 2020 10:39 pm
Forum: Theravāda for Beginners
Topic: Cathartic?
Replies: 13
Views: 8687

Re: Cathartic?

Hi, I am experincing a consistent sense of deep sadness and remorse about my previous actions that have either hurt or wronged others. Is this normal...seems to be contrary to my expectations from my practice. Thanks... It can be the case that once we drop our distractions with a practise such as m...
by Laurens
Sat May 30, 2020 11:07 am
Forum: Sīla
Topic: What are The Benefits of Sila?
Replies: 28
Views: 2822

Re: What are The Benefits of Sila?

People can trust you not to harm them if they get to know you. In reality people might abuse you also if they get to know you , it became your weakness . Being someone who can be trusted not to cause harm doesn't mean you have to become the sort of person who would naively be open to abuse by other...
by Laurens
Fri May 29, 2020 11:40 am
Forum: Sīla
Topic: What are The Benefits of Sila?
Replies: 28
Views: 2822

Re: What are The Benefits of Sila?

People can trust you not to harm them if they get to know you.
by Laurens
Wed May 27, 2020 8:06 am
Forum: Samatha Bhāvana
Topic: Is jhana a dream or real?
Replies: 18
Views: 19677

Re: Is jhana a dream or real?

jhana occurs between wakefulness and sleep where 5 sence dont use and no deep sleep where no awareness.. is jhana is dream or rreal or lucid dream ? As others have said, I think you misunderstand Jhana. My advice to you would be to stop worrying about Jhana. They sound great don't they? These state...
by Laurens
Wed May 27, 2020 7:43 am
Forum: Samatha Bhāvana
Topic: no thought sitting
Replies: 4
Views: 6257

Re: no thought sitting

can no thought sitting or (neither perception not non perception) sitting prior to jhana helps to enter first jhana? Thought is generally beyond our control, and can also be very subtle. In my experience trying to attain a state of no thought is impossible and therefore inevitably frustrating. It's...