The Order of the Good Death

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The Order of the Good Death

Post by Coyote »

Hope this is the right place to put this topic, this board has changed a lot since I last visited.

Anyway, I just wanted to bring to your attention, since I couldn't find any mention of it here, the Order of the Good Death.

From the website:
The Order of the Good Death is a group of funeral industry professionals, academics, and artists exploring ways to prepare a death phobic culture for their inevitable mortality. It was founded in January 2011 by Caitlin Doughty, a mortician and writer in Los Angeles, CA.

The Order is about making death a part of your life. That means committing to staring down your death fears- whether it be your own death, the death of those you love, the pain of dying, the afterlife (or lack thereof), grief, corpses, bodily decomposition, or all of the above. Accepting that death itself is natural, but the death anxiety and terror of modern culture are not.
Their tenets can be found here:
What do you think?

Edit: also, if you are interested, you should check out ask-a-mortician's youtube channel: ... qnMi02u5gQ
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Re: The Order of the Good Death

Post by sattva »

The tenants seem okay to me.

This reminds me of a commercial that I hate. There is a funeral home in town who has a radio commercial. In it, the owner talks about exposing children to death (something I agree with in concept) but then goes on to say they have a room which has video games for children where they can play. I would rather hope that they had a room with books and information about death and dying like the children's book Tear Soup. Doctor's still recommend Hospice care way later than they should and grief therapy is often not recommended unless one loses a person in hospice (meaning lots of people don't get the help they need when grieving). Another problem in our American society is that one is suppose to spend only a brief time grieving and from my own and other people I have known experience that's not how it is. Grieving can be cyclical in nature. I know this is a little off topic but my point is that dying, death, and grieving all are kind of hidden away in our society, something to be dealt with swiftly and made as prettified as much as possible.