Quotes/readings for a wedding

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Quotes/readings for a wedding

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Hi - I"m getting married in a few months. Although it will be a very secular ceremony, I am "sort of" a Buddhist and would like to include some appropriate readings or quotations if I can find any. I've got a few ideas but you all know the texts much better than I do, perhaps you can suggest a few. Note that these are for readings during the ceremony, not for vows. Thanks for any help!
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Post by santa100 »

some quotes that might be helpful. Congrats and good luck..

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Post by Ben »

Congratulations Theocat and I wish you and your fiance all the very best of health and happiness now and in the future!
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Post by cooran »

Hello Theocat,

Something here may be useful:

(Buddhist readings for weddings - a reminder of how to live with others.)
Khp 9
Karaniya Metta Sutta: The Buddha's Words on Loving-kindness translated from the Pali by The Amaravati Sangha
This is what should be done
By one who is skilled in goodness,
And who knows the path of peace:
Let them be able and upright,
Straightforward and gentle in speech,
Humble and not conceited,
Contented and easily satisfied,
Unburdened with duties and frugal in their ways.
Peaceful and calm and wise and skillful,
Not proud or demanding in nature.
Let them not do the slightest thing
That the wise would later reprove.
Wishing: In gladness and in safety,
May all beings be at ease.
Whatever living beings there may be;
Whether they are weak or strong, omitting none,
The great or the mighty, medium, short or small,
The seen and the unseen,
Those living near and far away,
Those born and to-be-born —
May all beings be at ease!

Let none deceive another,
Or despise any being in any state.
Let none through anger or ill-will
Wish harm upon another.
Even as a mother protects with her life
Her child, her only child,
So with a boundless heart
Should one cherish all living beings;
Radiating kindness over the entire world:
Spreading upwards to the skies,
And downwards to the depths;
Outwards and unbounded,
Freed from hatred and ill-will.
Whether standing or walking, seated or lying down
Free from drowsiness,
One should sustain this recollection.
This is said to be the sublime abiding.
By not holding to fixed views,
The pure-hearted one, having clarity of vision,
Being freed from all sense desires,
Is not born again into this world.
http://www.accesstoinsight.org/tipitaka ... .amar.html" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;

Sound File of monks chanting the above sutta:
http://wn.com/Aruna_Ratanagiri_Monks__M ... ndness_wmv" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;
http://www.i-do.com.au/wedding-tips/wed ... ings/1701/" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;

Mahayana Buddhist wedding ceremony
http://www.fpmt.org/teachers/zopa/advic ... itedkm.pdf" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;

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Post by retrofuturist »

cooran wrote:Karaniya Metta Sutta: The Buddha's Words on Loving-kindness
I agree. That would be nice.

Retro. :)
"The uprooting of identity is seen by the noble ones as pleasurable; but this contradicts what the whole world sees." (Snp 3.12)

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Re: Quotes/readings for a wedding

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Thank you everyone for the help and good wishes.
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Post by Neinteresnayawe »

thanks for the list guys. it'll really help me.
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Post by meindzai »


I didn't use any Buddhist verses for my wedding, but I visited a Buddhist temple that morning and took my five precepts. My wife was with me, and though she doesn't practice to the extent that I do, she was very supportive, and the monk gave us both a little dharma talk, just for the two of us. It was beautiful, and really set the tone for our marriage.

I'm not sure if this answers your question, but I felt like bragging/sharing and it is something to think about doing. I believe it is a tradition in some places (Thailand?) to do something like this. If you aren't ready for the precepts, you might find something similar.

BTW the place I went was called Dhamma wheel. Very auspicious! http://www.dhammawheelmeditationsociety.org/

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