How do I stop wanting attention & acknowledgment?

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Strive4Karuna
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Re: How do I stop wanting attention & acknowledgment?

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Very helpful thanks people
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fivebells
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Re: How do I stop wanting attention & acknowledgment?

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Think on the drawbacks of it when it comes up. Having that attention and acknowledgement is like having money from taking out a loan. You're going to have to struggle harder and harder to keep it coming at a satisfactory level, and eventually you will fail. It will be painful, and in the meantime what have you gotten? A life directed by the values of others.
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Re: How do I stop wanting attention & acknowledgment?

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To be fair, being overly dependent on others does potentially have a good side to it - it can lead one to people who will be able to explain the drawbacks of being overly dependent on others and who can point out some alternatives.
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Strive4Karuna
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Re: How do I stop wanting attention & acknowledgment?

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I think there may be a correlation between my need for attention & acknowledgment and being overly dependent on others because that definitely sounds like me. I will try to be mindful and see how it goes.
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Kamran
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Re: How do I stop wanting attention & acknowledgment?

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I try to remind myself that Praise and acknowledgement just means you are conforming to somebody else's values, or society's values - the values of people who suffer. I prefer the values of those who have freed themselves, the values of the noble ones.
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Re: How do I stop wanting attention & acknowledgment?

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First of all I might be the only one saying this but positive attention and acknowledgement can be a good thing. Those two things give people the will to live, for example doing a great deed or helping out a friend or even being good at something like bowling or chess. Second of all I don't believe in wanting attention and acknowledgment to make others feel like poop, for instance going into one profession instead of the other (i.e. going into business to buy a 60,000 dollar car instead of the medical field and helping others.) So it's healthy to want some kind of attention and acknowledgment just not the conceited kind. :bow: :thumbsup: :namaste: But then again what do I know. tomorrow I'm going to the store to see if they sell nicotine patches over the counter.
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