Thank you.

https://www.accesstoinsight.org/lib/tha ... eleft.htmlWhy waste your time being interested in those things? It's the nature of light to be bright. It's the nature of noise to be loud. That's what their functions are. If you don't focus on listening, that's the end of the matter. Act in a way that's not in opposition to your surroundings, for that's just the way they are. Simply reach a genuine understanding with them using deep discernment, that's all
Ajahn Dune
https://www.ajahnchah.org/book/Middle_Way_Within1.phpIt's the same with sankhāras. We say they disturb us, like when we sit in meditation and hear a sound. We think, ''Oh, that sound's bothering me.'' If we understand that the sound bothers us then we suffer accordingly. If we investigate a little deeper, we will see that it's we who go out and disturb the sound! The sound is simply sound. If we understand like this then there's nothing more to it, we leave it be. We see that the sound is one thing, we are another. One who understands that the sound comes to disturb him is one who doesn't see himself. He really doesn't! Once you see yourself, then you're at ease. The sound is just sound, why should you go and grab it? You see that actually it was you who went out and disturbed the sound.
Negative feelings are in you, not in reality. So stop trying to change reality. That's crazy! Stop trying to change the other person. We spend all our time and energy trying to change external circumstances, trying to change our spouses, our bosses, our friends, our enemies, and everybody else. We don't have to change anything. Negative feelings are in you. No person on earth has the power to make you unhappy. There is no event on earth that has the power to disturb you or hurt you. No event, condition, situation, or person. Nobody told you this; they told you the opposite. That's why you're in the mess that you're in right now. That is why you're asleep. They never told you this. But it's self-evident.
Let's suppose that rain washes out a picnic. Who is feeling negative? The rain? Or YOU? What's causing the negative feeling? The rain or your reaction? When you bump your knee against a table, the table's fine. It's busy being what it was made to Be -- a table. The pain is in your knee, not in the table. The mystics keep trying to tell us that reality is all right. Reality is not problematic. Problems exist only in the human mind. We might add: in the stupid, sleeping human mind. Reality is not problematic. Take away human beings from this planet and life would go on, nature would go on in all its loveliness and violence. Where would the problem be? No problem. You created the problem. You are the problem. You identified with "me" and that is the problem. The feeling is in you, not in reality.
Anthony de Mello
I fully believe that it is possible to perceive sound in this way, but I am unsure about how to achieve this in practical terms. I think I need more detailed guidance. Is this a perception to adopt - i.e. just sound (perhaps use a noting technique? "sound, sound")?Sam Vara wrote: ↑Wed Sep 12, 2018 6:54 pm ...and the famous Ajahn Chah passage, which actually comes in several forms throughout his collected teachings:
https://www.ajahnchah.org/book/Middle_Way_Within1.phpIt's the same with sankhāras. We say they disturb us, like when we sit in meditation and hear a sound. We think, ''Oh, that sound's bothering me.'' If we understand that the sound bothers us then we suffer accordingly. If we investigate a little deeper, we will see that it's we who go out and disturb the sound! The sound is simply sound. If we understand like this then there's nothing more to it, we leave it be. We see that the sound is one thing, we are another. One who understands that the sound comes to disturb him is one who doesn't see himself. He really doesn't! Once you see yourself, then you're at ease. The sound is just sound, why should you go and grab it? You see that actually it was you who went out and disturbed the sound.
Yes, I'm sorry if it sounds like a counsel of perfection, or even glib. I also struggle with noise during formal sitting, so I don't have an easy answer. You could try a "noting" technique, depending on your overall practice. What has had some success for me is focusing on a meditation object which is really clear and obvious, like counting. My teacher recommended "forcing" the mind to stick with the object, but I know this approach is unpopular with many meditators.philosopher wrote: ↑Fri Sep 21, 2018 2:04 am I fully believe that it is possible to perceive sound in this way, but I am unsure about how to achieve this in practical terms. I think I need more detailed guidance. Is this a perception to adopt - i.e. just sound (perhaps use a noting technique? "sound, sound")?
Sad to hear. I also was struggling with noise a lot (although I don't know if it was as bad as you have it. It was 'general' noise - talking, knocking, walking by the neighbors). Eventually I have found a very quiet place. At the beginning I was very happy, but over time I noticed my meditation hadn't become significantly better. Since then I don't care about noise any more. My advice: find a quiet place and see if noise is actually such a big problem.philosopher wrote: ↑Fri Sep 21, 2018 2:06 am @Volovksy and @paul, I have tried many noise canceling headphones - including top of the line ones by Bose as well ones designed for shooting ranges. None block the sounds of my neighbors - loud voices, children screaming, dogs barking, etc.
Thanks for sharing that experience. My meditation practice was much, much better before these current neighbors moved in, so I know that for me personally, at this stage, it does have a huge effect.Volovsky wrote: ↑Fri Sep 21, 2018 11:03 amSad to hear. I also was struggling with noise a lot (although I don't know if it was as bad as you have it. It was 'general' noise - talking, knocking, walking by the neighbors). Eventually I have found a very quiet place. At the beginning I was very happy, but over time I noticed my meditation hadn't become significantly better. Since then I don't care about noise any more. My advice: find a quiet place and see if noise is actually such a big problem.philosopher wrote: ↑Fri Sep 21, 2018 2:06 am @Volovksy and @paul, I have tried many noise canceling headphones - including top of the line ones by Bose as well ones designed for shooting ranges. None block the sounds of my neighbors - loud voices, children screaming, dogs barking, etc.
No, not at all. I appreciate any and all advice I can get. I find it interesting that there are so many instructions available about how to deal with physical pain, but comparatively few, it seems, for dealing with noise. I have always admired that quote by Ajahn Chah and do believe strongly that it is possible for a mind that has been trained sufficiently to be as at peace in silence as in a very noisy situation, but I'm nowhere near there. I will try your approaches. And thank you for the encouragement and the example of the monks; your message has inspired me to keep trying.Sam Vara wrote: ↑Fri Sep 21, 2018 6:24 amYes, I'm sorry if it sounds like a counsel of perfection, or even glib. I also struggle with noise during formal sitting, so I don't have an easy answer. You could try a "noting" technique, depending on your overall practice. What has had some success for me is focusing on a meditation object which is really clear and obvious, like counting. My teacher recommended "forcing" the mind to stick with the object, but I know this approach is unpopular with many meditators.philosopher wrote: ↑Fri Sep 21, 2018 2:04 am I fully believe that it is possible to perceive sound in this way, but I am unsure about how to achieve this in practical terms. I think I need more detailed guidance. Is this a perception to adopt - i.e. just sound (perhaps use a noting technique? "sound, sound")?
Ultimately, the more you meditate, the more the mind gets used to sticking with the object, and the more sounds can be ignored. Many of the monks I know say that monasteries are Thailand are very noisy places, so their example has been an inspiration to me in this matter. So I guess that cultivating faith/confidence will help as well.