Hey guys, just asking whats the real way to give merit to loved ones when we dont know where they are? we cant predict their rebirth but know that they are not arhants or anagami. so if i do metta and say let the merit go to them is it enough? will they get promoted to brahma world?
or should i chant pali words and they hear it and transform themselves? what if they are in human womb without sence faculties develop. ?
how to give merit to loved ones when they died?
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how to give merit to loved ones when they died?
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Re: how to give merit to loved ones when they died?
Seek approval first...Listen to Thanissaro @ 6:30 - 8:50
"He, the Blessed One, is indeed the Noble Lord, the Perfectly Enlightened One;
He is impeccable in conduct and understanding, the Serene One, the Knower of the Worlds;
He trains perfectly those who wish to be trained; he is Teacher of gods and men; he is Awake and Holy. "
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"The Dhamma is well-expounded by the Blessed One,
Apparent here and now, timeless, encouraging investigation,
Leading to liberation, to be experienced individually by the wise. "
He is impeccable in conduct and understanding, the Serene One, the Knower of the Worlds;
He trains perfectly those who wish to be trained; he is Teacher of gods and men; he is Awake and Holy. "
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"The Dhamma is well-expounded by the Blessed One,
Apparent here and now, timeless, encouraging investigation,
Leading to liberation, to be experienced individually by the wise. "
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Re: how to give merit to loved ones when they died?
When you are performing good deeds think of the departed loved ones.Hey guys, just asking whats the real way to give merit to loved ones when we dont know where they are? we cant predict their rebirth but know that they are not arhants or anagami. so if i do metta and say let the merit go to them is it enough?
Alternatively, you can chant the merit verse by pouring water (just like the way they perform in temple) to ground.
I performed the merit chat followed by pouring water just for the random departed ones to see if it works and they came to thank me in my dreams (a few times). If you know the name of the person just dedicate the merit water to that person.
I have also dreamed of the rebirth process where people went through the process of rebirth. i.e. those in the lower realm and those in slightly higher realm. In the lower realm rebirth all the people looked very sad and the location was dark with no daylight. In the slightly higher realm rebirth people were generally very cheerful and the location was bright with good daylight. However, in both realms just before they took their rebirth they stripped off all their clothing or left them behind. I remember after pouring the merit water dedication and in one of my dream people I was acting (with my parents and one family friend) like a "gatekeeper" letting people into a hall to wait for something. One woman was very happy to see me (she appeared out of thin air) and handed me a piece of paper (I then gave the paper to my parents) then told the lady to wait in the hall. After a while I went to the hall to wish everyone a happy journey. After a while I returned to the hall again only to see all their clothings were left behind. I knew they had all taken rebirth. About 300 to 400 people in the hall before they disappeared.
No. They don't go to Brahma world that way no matter the amount of merit you dedicated to them. I think in one of my dream I visited the Braham world, I guess. The reason I say this is that the whole place was only monks with different traditions. All males and no female. I have yet to confirm this but I think it is lower Brahma world.will they get promoted to brahma world?
You can try as there is no harm done. The easiest is to think of them whenever you have performed good deeds. If they are already in human womb then they are already in this material world waiting to be born. No harm trying but I don't think it is necessary as the person is just a different person with no relation to you any more. i.e. no self.or should i chant pali words and they hear it and transform themselves? what if they are in human womb without sence faculties develop. ?
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Re: how to give merit to loved ones when they died?
Hi, how thinking about them transfers the karma..Ordinaryperson wrote: ↑Wed Jul 01, 2020 2:52 amWhen you are performing good deeds think of the departed loved ones.Hey guys, just asking whats the real way to give merit to loved ones when we dont know where they are? we cant predict their rebirth but know that they are not arhants or anagami. so if i do metta and say let the merit go to them is it enough?
Alternatively, you can chant the merit verse by pouring water (just like the way they perform in temple) to ground.
I performed the merit chat followed by pouring water just for the random departed ones to see if it works and they came to thank me in my dreams (a few times). If you know the name of the person just dedicate the merit water to that person.
I have also dreamed of the rebirth process where people went through the process of rebirth. i.e. those in the lower realm and those in slightly higher realm. In the lower realm rebirth all the people looked very sad and the location was dark with no daylight. In the slightly higher realm rebirth people were generally very cheerful and the location was bright with good daylight. However, in both realms just before they took their rebirth they stripped off all their clothing or left them behind. I remember after pouring the merit water dedication and in one of my dream people I was acting (with my parents and one family friend) like a "gatekeeper" letting people into a hall to wait for something. One woman was very happy to see me (she appeared out of thin air) and handed me a piece of paper (I then gave the paper to my parents) then told the lady to wait in the hall. After a while I went to the hall to wish everyone a happy journey. After a while I returned to the hall again only to see all their clothings were left behind. I knew they had all taken rebirth. About 300 to 400 people in the hall before they disappeared.
No. They don't go to Brahma world that way no matter the amount of merit you dedicated to them. I think in one of my dream I visited the Braham world, I guess. The reason I say this is that the whole place was only monks with different traditions. All males and no female. I have yet to confirm this but I think it is lower Brahma world.will they get promoted to brahma world?
You can try as there is no harm done. The easiest is to think of them whenever you have performed good deeds. If they are already in human womb then they are already in this material world waiting to be born. No harm trying but I don't think it is necessary as the person is just a different person with no relation to you any more. i.e. no self.or should i chant pali words and they hear it and transform themselves? what if they are in human womb without sence faculties develop. ?
I may be slow learner but im at least learning...
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Re: how to give merit to loved ones when they died?
The intricacies of reincarnation involve quite a lot, but be consoled in the simple fact that whether the departed ones were fairly good karmicily or not, they will eventually reach their desired goal of parinirvana, in one lifetime or another. Since parinirvana transcends the time factor, you can communicate with your loved ones who are in that state, in meditation, with thoughts of good-will and certain prescribed methods of Buddhist connection.
That sage who has perfect insight,
at the summit of spiritual perfection:
that’s who I call a brahmin.
-Dhammapada.
at the summit of spiritual perfection:
that’s who I call a brahmin.
-Dhammapada.
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Re: how to give merit to loved ones when they died?
Candles, flowers, and incense however; offer them to the Buddha for that person's welfare.
Maitreya texts say merit cannot be transferred to ignore it as the alaya(storehouse consciousness) is emptiness as the true treasure... since that being is supposed to be yet thus come with the mission to stop/prevent others sacrificing life for concepts of "wealth" who knows who knows.
In Feng Shui meaning literally (tiny/small penis arrangements) red colored paper currency burnt as a new year offering... it is an offering to the lingham of both male and female in the cosmological/mystical; Shiva/shakti dance of kundalini chakra systems.
Red typically indicating the "red drop" in the thigle of ida and pingala that encircle and encamp the sushuma
Maitreya texts say merit cannot be transferred to ignore it as the alaya(storehouse consciousness) is emptiness as the true treasure... since that being is supposed to be yet thus come with the mission to stop/prevent others sacrificing life for concepts of "wealth" who knows who knows.
In Feng Shui meaning literally (tiny/small penis arrangements) red colored paper currency burnt as a new year offering... it is an offering to the lingham of both male and female in the cosmological/mystical; Shiva/shakti dance of kundalini chakra systems.
Red typically indicating the "red drop" in the thigle of ida and pingala that encircle and encamp the sushuma
What has happened; Is that which has yet to come. What will be ...Already is.